Pickup Artists are widely considered people who use tactics and techniques to try and “manipulate” members of the opposite sex into bed. Predatory, manipulative, rape culture, creepy…
Where else have we seen that before?
Popular Women’s Magazines perhaps?
Let’s completely overlook the ways women can look their sexiest, to attract men. Forget all the fashion techniques, makeup, hair, pushup bras, bling etc. Just ask a girl, they do all that for THEMSELVES.. Yeah, right…
But let’s look at some of these Mainstream Articles in these Popular women’s magazines.
Article Titles like:
Get Men to do your bidding without being a Nag
Get in his head and in his bed!
Christina Hendricks: How she chased her man and got him!
How to disappear without a trace.
The Sex position that will Put a Ring on your Finger.
Football and poker will improve your relationship. Find out how!
And a whole host of ways to manipulate men through sex.
It took me literally 3 minutes to pull of 3 random women’s magazine covers without even skimming for what the content of the covers would be. Let me guess… Women don’t read these magazines. That’s how these magazines stay in business, and have stayed in business for so long. That’s why advertisers spend a fortune advertising their products in these magazines. It’s because women don’t buy or read them… 😉
Am I complaining? Am I saying there’s something wrong with all of this? NOPE! As a matter of fact, I am very far from the hypocritical crowd out there spouting out how men learning tactics and techniques or even just improving their lives inside and out is somehow creepy, misogynistic, women hating, rape culture. If that were the case than women have been rapey, men hating, creepsters since before I was born.
No. Men and women trying to become more attractive to the opposite sex is AWESOME! It is NORMAL. Why not? But this double standard garbage has to stop. Women and Men are playing the same game, and the fact is, the WOMEN have been making the rules for a long time. In essence it is a woman’s game. It is a beautiful game to play. It’s just too bad some angry, jaded people, both men and women, are trying to project their own ignorance, and corrupted thinking on it.
Flirting is a dance. It is very much so, in my opinion, an elegant, beautiful dance. So if men and women want to learn some moves to become better dancers, Fantastic!! But this double standard that what is great for women to do is evil for men to do just needs to be put to rest.
OHH!! Looks like I made a booboo, to the excitement and delight of one particular mangina and his blog of estrogen filled man-hating feminist followers.
A couple of the covers above, are from a parody article. I guess just taking the first 3 covers at random and posting them in 3 minutes has it’s setbacks. Silly me.
However, since responding beyond my only comment I left on his blog,
“If you came out of your mom’s basement, and unplugged from your attempt to win the favor of women by self-loathing you could go to any supermarket and look at any cover of any of these magazines and see how ridiculously wrong you are.
…which is still awaiting moderation, I don’t think that this warrants the attention of another blog post.
But what I will do is take another 5 minutes of my life to give another blogger more to obsess over me about by taking hours of his day to look into every little detail of what I am about to post. Funny how a creepy, stalkerish guy is so quick to recognize (project) his traits in others while spending hours trying to dissect my article. Projection much?
Oh, and click this for the mangina post.
On a similar note. Check out this article about other websites similar to the Mangina site above:
One last word. Of COURSE the mangina’s article completely misses the point of this one.
Again, I think it is FABULOUS that men and women are trying to become more attractive to one another. Men and women are not separate like the mangina site would have you believe.
In life there are a couple different schools of thought, if you will.
There are people who are separate. Apart.
I’m old, you’re young.
I’m straight, you’re gay.
I’m Atheist, you’re religious.
He’s black, I’m white.
She’s a woman, I’m a man.
And on and on and on.
Separate – Apart. That’s what mangina and his poor collection of readers live their lives like every day.
Then there are other people who like to think we are all in this together. In the Taoist philosophy we all compliment one another. Yin and Yang. Darkness brings light. High allows there to be low. Valley and Mountain compliment each other as do the Seasons.
Men and women make wonderful dance partners so to speak. We are all on THE SAME TEAM. The human race. There is no jaded battle between men and women other than from those who have completely lost their way.
Flirting, sexuality, seduction. It’s a dance. A beautiful, wonderful dance that life has gifted us the opportunity to participate in. There is no Me vs You. There is not US and THEM. We are all in this together.