Synchrodestiny – Your Excuse to Seduce Without Fear

This is an article I wrote a while back for Cliff’s List, and I figured it was about time I dropped it on my own blog, with the usual tweaks and updates.  This is another one of those articles you’ll probably have to bookmark or revisit because it’s DEEP.

Enjoi…

Synchrodestiny –  Your Excuse to Seduce Without Fear

My life. It has been interesting, tough, had lots of painful shit going on, lots of things I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy that have happened to me.

This is not a sob story though. Because I have also had a lot of cool, kick ass experiences. I went on 4 dates last week, had sex with a new girl, went out with one girl twice, ran into another girl in a grocery store who I got a number from before who I never went out with, but who wants to. My business is doing well. I’m not even really marketing, but since I tend to teach these guys who come to me how to get successful with women, from point A to point F and beyond, I get great feedback. I just talked to Handler who I haven’t seen in a while and he said he had an LTR all winter, for example. The guys who I work with are kicking ass.

I live in Chicago, I have a pretty cool life outside of pickup that I really enjoy.

Life is good!

But the point is that I could have given up long ago, really just said fuck it, life sucks… If I didn’t come across a few books that started teaching me that EVERYTHING that happens is for a purpose.

There is no such thing as coincidence! The good things, the bad things, the seemingly random things… The situations where you are tested and fail. The other times when you are challenged and you succeed. The friends you make. The people who hate you. The girls you make love to, and the ones that call you a creepy fuck. The times when you feel like you are on top of the world. The times when the pain is so bad life feels hopeless.

None of it is coincidence. There is a purpose to all of it.

The 2 things we will focus on in this topic:

1. Synchrodestiny
2. Intention

Let’s get into FIRST, a couple interesting specific scientific examples, and then I will help you apply it to your seduction game. If you can learn and apply this concept, approach anxiety does NOT EXIST. There will be a whole myriad of things that you can improve upon in this game by applying this concept I am about to tell you. But first, the mad Science!!

You ever watch a group of sparrows fly?

If you know what I’m talking about you know that a large group of sparrows can fly amazingly fast in a big swarm and seem completely in sync. The whole group of them turns, goes up, down and around super fast, and they don’t crash into each other. Quite the opposite, they move as one.

“How is this happening? There’s not enough time for any exchange of information, so any correlation of activity among the birds must be happening nonlocally.

Physicists have been working for years to discover the properties that guide the movements of birds, and so far they have been unsuccessful. The complexity and absolute precision of the birds’ behavior stumps physical science every time. Engineers have been studying the movement of birds to see if there is a way to discover principles that might translate into solutions for traffic jams.” So far, with all the technology we have at our disposal, they have found it impossible to do.

There was a study done by scientist Rupert Sheldrake where they discovered that dogs knew when their human masters were on their way home. They installed cameras to watch the dogs. The dogs seemed to know when their masters were on their way home. They would move by the door and wait, etc. Even if they took the person to a completely random place at a random time the dogs seemed to know when their master was on the way back.

http://www.sheldrake.org/books-by-rupert-sheldrake/dogs-that-know-when-their-owners-are-coming-home

As most of us learned in science class, the universe is made up of both solid particles and waves. In other words, the chair you are sitting on, or the phone you are holding or the computer you are reading this on, is made up of little atoms that are actually NOT solid. They are forms of energy. But why are they solid to us? How can I sit in a chair that is made up of small particles of energy that are not solid?

But even more interesting is the waves. When they study the particles in a wave packet (measurement of a wave) there were two questions asked that had interesting results.

Where is it? What is its momentum?

Scientists discovered you can ask ONE but NOT BOTH of these questions.

Where is it fixes the wave particle to one spot. It becomes a PARTICLE.

What is its momentum? Movement becomes the critical factor so it is no longer a particle, it is a WAVE.

It depends on the question you ask as to whether it is a particle or a wave. It is the intention you have that determines what it is. This goes deeper, even to the point where Albert Einstein studied this, but you look that shit up on your own. I don’t want to bore most of the readers with scientific jargon. But understanding this stuff may shed some light on what I’m talking about.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wave–particle_duality

But let’s get even deeper with one last example. A scientist had swabbed his mouth and put the swab under a microscope. He was watching the cells that were no longer a part of his body. He was going to make a small incision in his finger with a scalpel and study the cells. He discovered that, even by going to get the scalpel, without even cutting himself, that the cells under the microscope were already acting erratically where they were not before. In other words, these cells, no longer attached to his body, were still worried that the body was going to be cut. Just the INTENTION affected them.

http://www.thesoundofsoul.com/?page_id=166

That same guy studied the cells of a guy who was looking at a naked pic of Bo Derek in Playboy. Even though the guys reading it said, “I don’t think she’s a 10,” his cells were bouncing all over. When the magazine was closed they stopped.

If you read and study up on a lot of this stuff you will start to see my point and that is that MANY things that happen in everyday life are not just surface level but they are happening on a VERY DEEP ASS level. So deep that we cannot even comprehend what the hell is going on behind the scenes.

Some have even suggested crazy shit like a butterfly beating its wings in Texas that causes a typhoon a week or so later in japan.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Butterfly_effect

1 more!

“There is a fascinating phenomenon in science known as the “multiples effect.” The multiples effect is when multiple people geographically isolated from one another come up with the exact same discovery at the exact same time. By 1922 there had been 148 major scientific breakthroughs identified to have been discovered in such a way. Here are just a FEW examples:

– Evolution (Darwin and Wallace)
– Calculus (Newton and Leibniz)
– Decimal fractions – 3 people
– Sunspots – 4 people in 1611
– Law of conservation of energy – 4 people in 1847
– Steamboat – 4 people
– Telescope – 9 people
– Thermometer – 6 people

Is it really possible that all 148 major discoveries happened at the exact same time coincidentally by people who were not sharing their ideas with each other?”

http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/scientific-proof-that-our-minds-are-all-connected-the-multiples-effect/

There are studies that suggest we are all connected on a deeper level, too. You can simply Google “we are all connected” to delve into that.

So check this out…

What if you, reading this right now, are part of a greater plan? What if you learning Seduction is for more reasons you can even fathom? What if your intention to become better with women is part of a grander scheme of things that go beyond you?

Everything that happens has a greater purpose.

Let’s talk about that.

Say you get up with the INTENTION of sarging. Your intention is to go out and meet women. You take a shower at a certain time, you get ready, put on clothes. You pick a destination and even a time you will go to that destination. Even if it’s loosely based, you still have the intention of doing so and are taking time out of your day to do so.

What if… just what if, life was taking place at a deeper level? So let’s say you get there, to wherever it is you decided to go. You see a girl you like. Your brain says to you, “Go talk to her…” What if you knew on a deep level that all of that was meant to happen?

Not that your brain was telling you to go talk to her because you should be afraid and have anxiety. But what if you were part of something on a WAY deeper level than you realized and you were SUPPOSED to go talk to that girl, and that she was supposed to interact with you?

I’m saying, what if life was happening? Your intention to go meet a woman, and her intention to do whatever it was she had decided to do that day – what if those things were happening on some universal level to give you to the opportunity to interact with each other?

Sure, you could choose not to talk to her. Particle or wave. But what if her being there was life’s gift to you for your intention? It may be to meet her, have a cool time, make a good friend, and even possibly fuck her. Or it could be for you to LEARN something. It might even be for you to TEACH something. Maybe it’s so you take 1 minute out of her day for her to tell you, “Fuck off, creep!” but that 1 minute saved her from crossing an intersection somewhere and getting hit by a bus. Or maybe she feels bad 10 minutes later, wonders why she had that reaction, and is inspired to do something good that she might not have done.

There are millions of different possibilities.

Maybe you would like a visual example:

Run Lola Run. This is a GREAT movie everyone should watch in their life. But watch this scene with the guy on the bike and then the flash forward of what happens. Later in the movie she makes a different choice and something different happens. But I’m not one for spoilers and this is a GREAT movie so… Watch it yourself.

But what if the intentions we have and the decisions we make have a profound effect on the things around us? And not only that, but what if they are also part of a huge, deep, complicated ORDER out of the seemingly chaotic world we live in?

What if, you not approaching that girl is like slapping life in the face?

What if you not escalating, because you are afraid to fail, is like not living the gift that life has given you?

What if you go and get blown out 10 times in a row, but you learn something you don’t even realize you learned? Or maybe life was just testing you to see how you would handle it?

Because I know there are days where I go out and blow out after blow out after blow out happen, and then the very next day I do ONE approach and end up sleeping with that girl.

It happens. It just happened to me last week with a girl I had sex with last week. I can go into detail but it’s a whole other report:

https://librachronicles.wordpress.com/2014/06/20/lr-hb-creole-legs/

I had been out for a couple days before that with nothing sticking, and boom, I meet a chick and we have sex a couple days later. This is pretty common for me.

What if, even further, your intention to be good at seduction alone is enough? What I mean is, because just by writing that I realize that seeing the women I hook up with is NOT ALWAYS when I plan on meeting them. I might be doing something completely random. Maybe I’m in a grocery store to grab some food and I see a girl looking at lettuce. The 2 choices are, particle or wave… I could let her be there, because the mind says, in this order:

1. She’s cute. Go talk to her.
2. No. I’m shopping right now. I need to get food.

But what if you just assumed she was there, at that moment, so you could meet her? Then you wouldn’t be afraid to approach her. In other words, you went to the store at X time to Y place and walked down Z isle, not because of random chance, but because THAT girl was going to be there at THAT specific time so that YOU could have an opportunity to interact with you and SHE could have an opportunity to interact with you.

Are you following me?

There is no coincidence. Not in my life. Every single thing that happens; good, bad, ugly; I feel there is a greater reason for. If we can begin to look at life around us as something we are supposed to take part of, not this old, scared APART mentality that the community has that, “Approaching is scary because when we were cavemen you could get killed if you approached the wrong girl…” By the way, I completely disagree with that. I think it’s as simple as our egos. Our egos think we are amazing creatures and by going and talking to a girl, and her rejecting us, then it “proves” that we aren’t as awesome as we thought were, and that’s a scary thing.

But what if the difference between that Tribal Leader who was fucking all the cave woman bitches, and the rest of the guys who were getting sloppy seconds OR who were not getting any, was simply that Tribal Leader guy was more apt to ACT upon the situations life gave him. Maybe instead of thinking that life was making things difficult, scary or whatever – he took it all as life giving him a gift or OPPORTUNITY, whether that be for material gain, to learn something new, to do one of a million possible things, but at least take it as a gift to ACT upon?

So I’m saying, when you see these girls from now on, start telling yourself she is there for you to interact with on some level. Start trying to see the connections around you. By the way, I can tell you now that once you get good at looking at life like this, you will start to get MAD perceptive abilities. You will start to see things before they happen. At first you won’t realize it. Something will happen and you’ll be like, “Oh, I knew that was gonna happen.” Maybe that happens to you now a little from time to time.

The KEY of this, by the way, is not to think MORE. It is to think LESS. Don’t try and think, just be.

Cute girl. Go talk. Done.

Not, Cute girl, oh but maybe she’s waiting for someone, besides I’m really thirsty and need some water, oh and she might reject me anyway, and besides we’re at a bus stop, and I’m dressed like shit….

Because if you assumed that ALL of that (those excuses) were actually part of a greater plan that, try as you might, you couldn’t begin to understand then none of those things could hold you back.

She’s waiting for someone, I’m thirsty, might reject you, at a bus stop, dressed like shit now becomes – “Well, life knew that shit was gonna be all in place anyway so THINGS ARE, AS EXACTLY AS THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO BE IN THIS MOMENT. Time to go talk to that beautiful girl.

When you get all locked up with things like KINO, or ESCALATION or, WHAT TO SAY NEXT, or the 100 other sticking points that are caused by fear…maybe you can tell yourself that this is supposed to be this way. I can go ahead and escalate because I’m supposed to at least try. That’s why I’m here. If it works or it doesn’t, it was supposed to be that way. I embraced life.

Can you dig it?

Your intention + No such thing as coincidence + You seeing that cute girl = Life’s gift to you.

Make sense?..

RL

SIDECAR:

You wanna see this shit in Action?  There’s this scene that illustrates exactly my thought process of how this all works in one of my Favorite Movies, Le Fabuleux Destin d’Amélie Poulain.

She seems to be aware and tapped into this concept the whole movie which is one of the 100 reasons I love this work of art.  Check this clip out.

SIDECAR II:

I’ve been having AMAZING results with my new E-Course.

Basically, man, I have been having guys telling me it is doing their lives a complete 180.  I have especially geared it for people who have Social Anxiety, Depression, and many other things I had to deal with myself when I first got into this game.  This is not a joke.  This is over 10 years of research, trial, error and success from someone who was more fucked up than you are now, by FAR, when I first started.  (I will write about that soon, I promise.)

Ecourse 1 Ecourse 2

Anyway, there are 2 tiers we can work with.  JUST the inner game stuff?  OR a combination of Inner game and a PICKUP Skills as well.  I like to say we do this for a month of Mentoring but honestly, I’m an “in the moment” type guys so I tend to lose track of time anyway…  As usual this is mostly custom tailored to what you are dealing with specifically.

Tier 1:  Inner Game Course: $500 for 1 month of mentoring over email/fb/skype.

Tier 2:  Inner and Outer Game Course: $1000 for 1 month of mentoring over email/fb/skype.

I suck at marketing so I don’t have a fancy email list or squeeze-page or any of that shit.  If you are interested, just email me and we can set up a FREE consultation.

Ronnie.libradating@gmail.com

OR you can hit me up on FB:

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Microcalibration Mini-Course – Everything You Need To Know to Step Up Your Game to Another Level

Microcalibration

Ah yes.  So many completely are unaware of the concepts these days, or are doing it completely wrong.  And yet this is SUCH an INTEGRAL part of game, probably one of the top 5 things you should REALLY know and know WELL if you ever want to get past the MASS approach and into a little more finesse based game.  This is the shit that separates the men from the boys, so to speak. Many guys may think they know this but most guys I come across really do not.  That’s why a MAJORITY of guys either have problems with cocky/funny, push/pull or negs, or getting dates, or why so many guys JUST CAN’T SEEM to hook those sets – because they are simply unfamiliar with this concept.  This is the basic groundwork for much of your game.  In other word, if you don’t know this your game is probably pretty bad.  When you know this you wont do things like talk about (anymore) how negs don’t work, or ask questions about how come a chick lost interest after you riddled her with IOIs after she was giving you IODs.

This started out as a pointer I gave to a guy who posted an infield video of him doing some approaches in the Midlair, and I wanted to help him understand what he was doing wrong. EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW THIS.  I mean, you don’t NEED to know anything, really, but this is something that is KEY to pretty much every one of my Lays and IMO is a key element to the concept of what game is.

I think, personally, I am writing this because I am lazy a little and I think this will be a great link to just copy-paste when so many new guys, or even experienced guys have the same issues over and over.  This is DEFINITELY a compilation of OPP (other people’s posts) because I really don’t feel the need to rehash other people’s shit and take credit or try and reinvent the wheel.

This is ABSOLUTELY meant to be a mini-course on Microcalibration, so that if you read, watch and study everything in this video you really should have a pretty solid idea of what Microcalibration is and how to run it in field.  So take your time, book mark it if you need to because there is quite a full course in here and it may take you a bit to get through this and understand the process (especially since there is over an hour of video work alone)  But DON’T SKIP AHEAD!  Do this in order for best results.  Let’s get started.

A simplified micro-calibration version is basically if she is giving you IOI’s you give her IOI’s spiced with IOD’s as intermittent rewarding which will lead toward compliance.

If she gives you an IOD return with an IOD then follow it with an IOI giving her a chance to redeem herself.  This is important.

1. HB: IOI -> PUA: IOI or  IOD -> Repeat

2. HB: IOD -> PUA: IOD then IOI -> Go to option 1

Lovedrop’s Example:

Is there some way to soften the impact when showing interest, enabling you to get away with it while still preserving your own value and her comfort levels?

Yes! Simply calibrate the IOI by adding an IOD at the end. For example, if I say to a girl, “I like you,” that is obviously an IOI. Therefore, I will calibrate it by following up with an IOD such as, “. . . Too bad I’m not sure about you yet.”

Mystery might say: “Wow, you are amazing.” [IOI] “I mean, don’t get me wrong . . . in five minutes you could say the wrong thing and totally botch it.” [IOD] In this way he balances interest with disinterest, enabling him to get away with much more than otherwise would have been possible.

The bit of disinterest at the end is what we call an IOD Calibrator, because it allows us to calibrate the impact of the IOI. Mystery teaches to always soften an IOI by adding an IOD calibrator at the end, which allows you to get away with significantly more escalation than you otherwise would have. Gambits and touches that would normally be interpreted as too forward—and thus resisted—are instead welcomed. For example, let’s say that you take a woman’s hand in yours for some innocent and harmless thumb-wrestling. But . . . by taking her hand, you have also just telegraphed interest, and that IOI could very well make her feel more resistant, causing her to pull away. Therefore, you must balance the IOI of taking her hand by adding an IOD calibrator such as by telling her, “Don’t get any funny ideas.”

It’s this slight bit of disinterest that makes it possible to get away with holding her hand when she normally would have pulled away.

Another example of this is to lean back and cross your arms (IOD) as you say, “I’m curious about you . . .” (IOI).

Another example is to hug a woman (IOI), and then push her away saying, “Ok that’s all you get.” (IOD).

Another example is to look away (IOD) as you put your hand on a woman’s shoulder, (IOI) and then a second later, look back in her eyes (IOI) as you release your hand from her shoulder with a little push (IOD).

So, the first principle of microcalibration is to always increase the effectiveness of your IOIs by softening them with an IOD calibrator. This principle should always be at work in your social behavior.

The next principle in microcalibration is to always return disinterest for disinterest. If she gives me an IOD, then I must give her an IOD as well; otherwise I would be rewarding bad behavior. When I take her hand, I am calibrating in real-time to her responses. Does she put her hand in mine and squeeze it a little? Or do I detect even a slight resistance? If I feel that she is pulling back, even slightly, then I will pre-empt things by throwing away her hand.

Because she gave me an IOD (the resistance I felt in her touch), so I will return with an IOD by tossing her hand away with a dismissive brush of my fingers, as if I were discarding a piece of trash. This is called a hand-throw. If you do this properly, she will feel a powerful jolt of  devalidation which will condition her to become more compliant in the future, as well as prompt her to put more effort into gaining your attention and approval. She may even become indignant. I’ve received more than one angry “Did you just throw my hand away?!?!” Women really feel the emotion generated by a well-executed hand-throw.

Sinn’s Example:

This article will assume basic knowledge of the following:

In any human interaction, there are only four means of communication that take place.
IOIs indicators of interest
IODs Indicators of disinterest
DHVs Demos of high value
DLVs Demos of low value
Add in Compliance Tests (CTs) and a base line of punishment reward and you have social interaction in a formula.

This came about because last year I was finding that with some girls I had to neg a million times to get any IOIs while with others they would ask me for my name  right after I opened or tell me I was hot. If I continued DHVing they would get weirded out. However if I started qualifying them it often didn’t take. So I started  putting an IOI in before my qualification attempt it went better.

Wrong
Girl: You’re cute! Where are you from?
Sinn: Buy me a drink before you hit on me! IOD What do you have going for you besides your looks? Compliance test

Right
Sinn: Buy me a drink before you hit on me! IOD You are very pretty IOI.. but beauty is common what do you have going for you besides your looks? CT

The balancing of IOIs and IOD is a key element.

I think of it as a seesaw:
If I throw too may IODs that weighs down one side of the seesaw and I’m an asshole.
If I throw too many IOIs that weighs down the other side making me an AFC
But if I adjust every IOD with a potential IOI and every IOI with a potential IOD I attain balance and my sets work like magic.
Microcalibrating is simply throwing the balancing part of the equation(IOI or IOD) when needed .

Sometimes, for example, you will get sets that will be attracted to you as soon as you open your mouth. Or before.
If a girl approaches you and says she likes your cowboy hat, and you respond with Jealous Girlfriend, you are going backwards in the interaction. By her opening  you, she is telling you she is already attracted to you. Therefore we can respond by saying “thanks, what’s your name?” which would be an IOI in return for hers. We can say then based on how readily she answers. If she’s hesitant or doesn’t immediately ask for my name or try to keep the conversation going (IODS). I will then respond with my own IOD ” buy me a drink before you hit on me”. Then immediately follow up with a compliance test ” and your special because?” when she  answers this I am now in A3 and can start giving her IOIs.

In this way I have now gotten through attraction in 30 seconds.

However if she refuses to answer or she IODs me when I ask her why she’s special, I still have an out…

Her: ” I’m not special ” or ” why are you special?”
Me: Never mind I was just being polite( IOD) oh you have a u shaped smile… ( DHV)

See how there are contingencies of what to based on what her reactions are?

For those of you who are routine stacking it would look something like this:

Her: ” I like your cowboy hat”
You: ” Thanks I actually need a female opinion, who lies more ”
Her: ” opinion”
You: FTC finish opener, stock neg, First routine, next routine ….. Until you get enough IOIs that you start qualifying and it takes.

By not pausing and looking at reactions you are assuming that what you are doing is working. Which it may not be.
By being able to read IOIs we can move into A3 Faster and ultimately into comfort faster and beyond.
Also by knowing that we are getting an IOD or an IOI we can calibrate any routine mid stream to either IOI or IOD.

Take for example the “may I touch your eyes” Line
Sinn: “You have beautiful eyes” IOI
Girl: while rolling her eyes and thinking another loser ” Thanks” IOD
Sinn: May I touch them? IOD

I change the routine based on the reaction she gives me.
However if the same interaction takes place but goes like this:

Sinn: You have beautiful eyes. IOI
Girl: “Thank you so much no one ever says that to me.” IOI

Now I have a sincere response so there is no need for me to throw the second part of the routine.
We want to be able to compliment girls and give them IOIs, however most girls will not yet be comfortable with that until later.
Microcalibrating is simply the act of watching responses and then tailoring the next action toward the response we just got a simplified version would state that we respond to IOIs with IOIs, IODs with IODs and we constantly test for compliance.

Through microcalibrating based on reactions while following the M3 model we can greatly increase our ability to get results. Microcalibrating also has a place in kino escalation.  If I make out with a girl on day 1 and then see her again the next day I will want to test to see where her willingness to kiss me again is, so I microcalibrate. I move in as I hug her and I pause. I now watch to see if she looks nervous or uncomfortable. If she doesn’t I go for it. If she looks uncomfortable then I push her off  and increase personal space so that the next time I get close she’s more comfortable and I can go for it. Same thing once we are holding hands I will slide my finger tips away from hers to see if she follows them. Is she does I will pull her closer to me, if she doesn’t I  throw her hand off.

A key to microcalibrating is remembering that IODs are not always negs. It would be weird if when a girl refused to qualify herself I told her she was a little shit. Instead they are simply ways of showing that we are not interested, they can be removal of kino, backturns, pauses in the conversation, eye rolls, as well as negs and  disqualifiers.

A few other keys to micro calibrating by watching the reactions you’re causing you can either soften or harden a routine

EX:
Sinn: You and I are never going to get along”(IOD)
Girl: why not I think we’d get along fine (IOI)
Sinn: we’re too similar IOI But I think our differences will be complimentary IOI
Sinn: You and I are never going to get along”(IOD)
Girl: You’re right we wouldn’t
Sinn: Yeah we would fight all the time, and I’d always win (IOD)

If a target at any time gives me an IOD i will respond in kind. This is the punishment part of our punishment reward sub routine,
however if we are already in comfort the punishment will no longer be negs, instead it will be take aways, and freeze outs. If at any time she gives me an IOI even if it’s as passive as holding my drink, I will reward her until she becomes uncomfortable and gives an IOD then we respond with another IOD, wait for an IOI and if it doesn’t come we compliance test to actively look for IOIs. We can also do this by balancing the amount of value we demonstrate onto a set.

Not every set needs to hear a million routines before they will be willing to talk to you. If have run more than 2 routines in a set and you are not attempting to move on to qualification (A3) you are hurting your game. You want to make sure that you are constanly testing to see where you are. And then trying to advance at the same time. Micro calibrating makes it easy by throwing little adjusters depending on the responses you are getting.  It’s not at all reactive to apologize when you over-neg. You will lose a lot more sets by continuing to neg once you’ve offended then by apologizing and qualifying her for standing up for herself.

Microcalibration is the art of adjusting what you’re saying in real time to the reactions you are getting.

Now let’s put this all together.  What does Microcalibration look like and how do we do it?  Well I found this great video on youtube that explains it pretty damn well from Mystery and the Venusian Arts crew back in the day.

Questions, comments, concerns?
~RL

By the way, I gotta give credit where credit is due.

If you want to learn more about all this shit from the sources I provided here check out:

The Mind of Mystery Course

And

The Sinns of Attraction

Oh and for all you Infield Junkies I will be posting the video and my responses to the guy in the Midlair over the next few days so stay tuned.  You can subscribe by email or twitter or whatever over to the right.

Questions, comments, concerns?

~RL

SIDECAR:

If you know microcalibration, you MAY want to know what bodyrocking is and how to do it.  Again, I dug up another video from Mystery and the crew on that as well.  The best I know, naturals, puas, lesbians, myself, all incorporate a lot of bodyrocking into our game.  It makes you more hypnotic and attractive and sends mixed signals on a subconscious level to those girls you are interacting with, which in the early stages of the interaction can be an invaluable tool to gaining attraction.  Also this video talks a lot about delivery.  If you can incorporate all these things in this post into your game you will see a HUGE improvement, I promise.

Enjoy:

Day2 Scrum – Dating How-To Mini Guide for Men

This is a scrum of ideas I posted once, and is more based on a guy who already has a decent skillset, is getting dates, knows all the basics, but is having some trouble when it comes to converting Day2s into a close.  If you are looking for a complete date guide this might not be for you.  There are plenty of guides and sources out there you can learn the basics from.  Sometimes we gotta step things up for the guys who are maybe a tiny bit more on the experienced side.

First of all, let’s get right into the basics – NO DINNER!!!!

It becomes too much of an interview.  Food makes people tired.  You will become the next guy who took her out to eat.  I have heard several women tell me they will go out with a guy at least once to get a ‘Free Meal’ even if they’re not sure they like you.

So NIX the food for the most part, unless you want to save a few bucks and do a Byob!  In that case make sure you make it clear to her, “I’m not really that hungry but I could nibble on something.  Let’s go get an app to share.”  or something like that.  Don’t make FOOD the central theme.

I’m telling you.  The times I spend the most money are the times I DO NOT get laid.  You have to be careful with some girls.  They will eat and drink and want you to spend your money and get mad if you don’t.

There is one time that comes to mind that a girl got pissed because she offered to pay and I let her but if you got a chick like that, who fucking cares.  You want her to want you, not want what you can pay for.

But BALANCE this.  Don’t be a stingy, cheapass either.  It’s tough sometimes, but it takes social calibration.  If you invite someone out to drinks it doesn’t make sense to say, “I just invited you here to drink but now you have to pay for your own shit.”

It’s like my friend in Highschool who would had a car and would call me and say, “hey man, I’m going to ‘such and such’ a place.  You should come with me!” and then once we were rolling he would ask for Gas Money.

Girls talk about everything!  They will talk to you with their friends and people whom you’ve never met and if you come across as a cheap ass to even one of those friends you’re done.

FOOD Exceptions:

The 2 exceptions that come to mind that involve day2s and Food or Dinner are as follows:

1.  You can meet a girl to a bar WALKING DISTANCE by your place, grab some appetizers to nibble, making sure you nibble light and she doesn’t slam down the food.  Then you have maybe 1 drink and nibble the food and say, “Hey, let’s go check out this other place.” Make sure you get a doggy bag for the food and take it with you. On the way to the next place, you say, “I don’t want to carry this around all night…  I’m gonna drop this in my fridge real fast.”

Then you walk with her to your place, and assuming things are going ok and she actually likes you, she comes in with you.  First thing you do is put the food in the fridge, pour her a glass of wine and yourself, NOT FULL, just like half a glass so it doesn’t seem like you are pre-planning this, but at the same time it’s enough where she will have to take a minute to drink it, then start chatting.  You don’t have to get right on top of her shit, you can sit a few feet away at first, and, AS ALWAYS, make sure that she is hopefully sitting somewhere positioned where she can EASILY get to the door and YOU ARE NOT BLOCKING her path.  Why?  Because subconsciously this sends a message to her that you’re the safe, cool, not needy guy you are, and that you are SAFE.  You want a girl to be and feel safe at all times, even in the subtlest ways, because a guy who gets plenty of ass and loves women would do most of these thing unconsciously.  That’s why women love him… 😉

Then you can escalate.

2.  Dinner at your place – You make her DINNER.  For me, this usually means going classy style.  Sure, you can cook some bullshit and it can do the trick, but honestly there was something I heard on a Joe Rogan Podcast (if anyone knows about the specifics of that podcast like which one it is, feel free to let me know in the comments) where these guys talked about how if you feed a woman certain things that it can release certain feelings in her like, “Wow, this food is so amazing that life must be abundant, safe, awesome, fantastic – I can relax and breed.”  In that case the guy talked about making some home made ice cream that was really rich – maybe paleo with a lot of creme or butter or something, I can’t recall.

But in MY case, I like to approach this from multiple sides.  A.  I will make her cocktails if I can, or have red wine if you’re not that creative or feeling lazy.  Not white wine.  White wine reminds women of brunch or hanging out with their friends.  Red wine is seductive, has a nice warm buzz, and is associated with romance and sex and being naughty.  But if you have cocktail skills, like I do, then you can REALLY wow her and make some badass, classy cocktails. I like something like an Espresso Martini, or maybe an Old Fashioned, or if it’s winter you can get her really wet and make a Blue Blazer.  Basically something she can sip on and enjoy, not shots or bullshit party drinks.  Yes, you can make her margaritas or some nonsense but you’re not hanging out with some sloppy club slut and getting ready to do lines of coke..  I mean if you are then that’s a completely different style of game, and this whole post is irrelevant.  But if you are a classy, seductive guy then …  keep it classy.

Then B. Have her help you cook.  Don’t have her just sitting there like you’re her servant and she’s waiting to see how you can impress her.  You’re going to impress her anyway.  I like to make Carbonara.  I might have her cut garlic or bacon or something.  Pretend it’s like you’re on a cooking show.  Have fun with it.  Correct her. “Cut the bacon a bit smaller/larger.  Wait, you have to slice the garlic like ‘this’.”  But do it in an interactive, light hearted, fun way. Think James Bond.

C.  Again, I like to make Carbonara because it seems to have that effect.  All that cream, and cheese and pasta and bacon are going to go right to her brain and announce to her body, “Holy shit.  Life is AMAZING.  We are safe.  We are in the perfect position to rest, relax and even mate.  Let’s do it!”  All that goodness is going to release the itis and if you are escalating while you have been cooking and even eating, but not all hardcore or sloppy like, she will be DTF or at least get the heavy fool around going down.

Ok, enough about food.  PS. I don’t recommend LEARNING how to escalate or close the deal by practicing with food dates.  Newer guys will most likely be a bit clumsy to deal with all the details.

Out on the Town:

Now then if you’re out and about and not doing the dinner thing.  Bounce to 2 places ONLY.  GO NEAR YOUR PLACE!!!!  Nope, seriously.  It’s easier.  Yes you can close at random places but why make it hard on yourself?  Choose a place that is moderately busy but with some people.  DON’T pick a very busy place.  Keep the distractions to a minimum

Venue 1 – Drink 1 Drink ONLY.  Do not get seconds.  If she goes to order a second drink then politely cut her off and suggest, “Actually let’s get a drink somewhere else.  There’s this other cool place I wanna check out.”

Venue 2 – Drink maybe two at the most.  Do not let her get too many drinks in her.  Trust me.  If you can keep it low then you’re good to go.  I recently had a day2 where the chick had too much wine and from 1 bar to the next she INSTANTLY went from Liking me A LOT, kissing, sexual fun vibe, to BITCH because she was an angry drunk.   That reminds me:  DO NOT SIT AT THE BAR.

Read that again.

DO NOT SIT AT THE BAR.

Find a booth or a nice quiet little table.  Get intimate and private.  No distractions.  .

Ya (guys may argue with this but that’s because they’re trying to sound cool) the problems associated with sitting at the bar are…

Distractions from TV
Distractions from girls
Distractions from guys
Distractions from couples
Distractions from Bartenders
If she is a shit tester she may try to get the bartender to side with her during a debate – Guy or Girl bartender will most likely side with her just because…
She may feel more uncomfortable kinoing or getting a sexual vibe going at the bar.

PS – My day 2 game is AMAZING.  I feel than almost any chick I get out with me will end up naked in my bed.  NOW there are always exceptions to this rule but I have a high consistency rate because I am always learning from every little tiny mistake or contingency that takes place…  So the point is that YES you can be cool and do all this stuff however you want but I am trying to make things EAZY to get to point A to point F.

So make it easier.  After Venue 2 head to venue 3…  (by the way this is easier if you are walking the who time, not driving) but on the way to this imaginary venue 3 make up an excuse you need to stop at your place.

Restroom and the bar’s is gross…
maybe you do order a little food and don’t want to carry the box around all night. (like we mentioned above)

Make it light and make it random.

Have wine on hand or some other alcohol.  music is good too.  “i’ll be just a minute…  Want some wine?”

If she’s there she’s on but it’s still up to you.  You have to play cool.

Push and pull and vibe her.  If you get close and are touching and the sexual tension is hot and she gets a little uncomfortable, pull away and move away from her nonchalantly.  You should actually be push-pulling kino from the get go of the entire day2.

Let me see if I can break down my day 2 game in a very basic form:

Talk, Talk, Touch, Grope, Talk, Talk, More Groping, Talk about Groping and Touching, Tell her I like her and WHY (the most important part, but the part so easy to forget – “You know why I like you? Because not only are you incredibly sexy but you (mention things you like about her personality), more groping (when I say groping I mean groping. Legs, stomach, back, ass, boobs, yes all in public and blatant. For a buffer you can always entrap her into starting it if you get the opportunity i.e. She goes to put her arm around your back and on the way brushes your ass. You say, “You trying to grab my ass?” She will probably protest. You say, “No it’s ok, Go ahead.” with a smile. Once she does it, it’s game on.) Talking is a buffer for you to touch her. I didn’t get this for such a long time. The key is getting over your fear of touching her and just going. I EVEN get my hands pushed away several times on date. I used to think that was bad. It’s NOT.

Pitfall and Contingency: 

I forgot to mention I do tend to overuse preselection in my talking. Preselection is powerful shit. If you thread your stories with adventures of you and other girls she will know you’re a sexy guy it’s ok to get down with. Of course, like anything, it can be overused. On last nights date I came up with the PERFECT way to reframe once she calls me on it. What I’m saying is, I want to thread myself as a guy who gets action and dates alot. ONCE a chick starts to like you she will say something like, “I don’t want to hear about all these other girls.” So last night I said, “Good. I’m glad it took you this long to actually say that, because I had to make sure you weren’t going to be one of those creepy, jealous, cling-on chicks. It took you a while to call me out on talking about other girls so that’s good.” And then you do not have to do preselection stories anymore. She knows you’re a hot stud. 😉 Now kiss her on her face and put your arms around her and grab her ass with both hands.

I feel like I want to elaborate on getting my hands pushed away AND it being ok. Mostly experienced guys can skip this. This part is for newer guys. If she is OBVIOUSLY not happy when you touch her and she is pushing your hands away like, “get off me creep.” then, in that case it is NOT ok to keep touching her, but most likely she will leave anyway. If she does like it she may still give you shit but she’ll probably be smiling when she removes my hand from her boob, call me bad (i love to hear this) or at the very least she will have an unemotional, straight face and say something more aggressive like, “You sure touch alot.” HERE’S the screen I’m looking for. IF she says she doesn’t like it when guys touch her – she means she’s doesn’t like it when YOU touch her. Say, “that’s too bad cuz I love touching.” And if she has a problem with it, well in this case it’s ok to use the term NEXT.  Why waste time on the Mic? But also this is a good way to learn to fractionate a little when you first start touching her.

This is my little scrum of thoughts on a good day2.  By no means in this a complete guide but, perhaps, it will help you to fill in some holes you may have.  Maybe newer guys will hurt their head a little reading this but for you guys who have been out there, I’m pretty sure a lot of these things will make sense to you.

Good luck!