Ah yes. So many completely are unaware of the concepts these days, or are doing it completely wrong. And yet this is SUCH an INTEGRAL part of game, probably one of the top 5 things you should REALLY know and know WELL if you ever want to get past the MASS approach and into a little more finesse based game. This is the shit that separates the men from the boys, so to speak. Many guys may think they know this but most guys I come across really do not. That’s why a MAJORITY of guys either have problems with cocky/funny, push/pull or negs, or getting dates, or why so many guys JUST CAN’T SEEM to hook those sets – because they are simply unfamiliar with this concept. This is the basic groundwork for much of your game. In other word, if you don’t know this your game is probably pretty bad. When you know this you wont do things like talk about (anymore) how negs don’t work, or ask questions about how come a chick lost interest after you riddled her with IOIs after she was giving you IODs.
This started out as a pointer I gave to a guy who posted an infield video of him doing some approaches in the Midlair, and I wanted to help him understand what he was doing wrong. EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW THIS. I mean, you don’t NEED to know anything, really, but this is something that is KEY to pretty much every one of my Lays and IMO is a key element to the concept of what game is.
I think, personally, I am writing this because I am lazy a little and I think this will be a great link to just copy-paste when so many new guys, or even experienced guys have the same issues over and over. This is DEFINITELY a compilation of OPP (other people’s posts) because I really don’t feel the need to rehash other people’s shit and take credit or try and reinvent the wheel.
This is ABSOLUTELY meant to be a mini-course on Microcalibration, so that if you read, watch and study everything in this video you really should have a pretty solid idea of what Microcalibration is and how to run it in field. So take your time, book mark it if you need to because there is quite a full course in here and it may take you a bit to get through this and understand the process (especially since there is over an hour of video work alone) But DON’T SKIP AHEAD! Do this in order for best results. Let’s get started.
A simplified micro-calibration version is basically if she is giving you IOI’s you give her IOI’s spiced with IOD’s as intermittent rewarding which will lead toward compliance.
If she gives you an IOD return with an IOD then follow it with an IOI giving her a chance to redeem herself. This is important.
1. HB: IOI -> PUA: IOI or IOD -> Repeat
2. HB: IOD -> PUA: IOD then IOI -> Go to option 1
Is there some way to soften the impact when showing interest, enabling you to get away with it while still preserving your own value and her comfort levels?
Yes! Simply calibrate the IOI by adding an IOD at the end. For example, if I say to a girl, “I like you,” that is obviously an IOI. Therefore, I will calibrate it by following up with an IOD such as, “. . . Too bad I’m not sure about you yet.”
Mystery might say: “Wow, you are amazing.” [IOI] “I mean, don’t get me wrong . . . in five minutes you could say the wrong thing and totally botch it.” [IOD] In this way he balances interest with disinterest, enabling him to get away with much more than otherwise would have been possible.
The bit of disinterest at the end is what we call an IOD Calibrator, because it allows us to calibrate the impact of the IOI. Mystery teaches to always soften an IOI by adding an IOD calibrator at the end, which allows you to get away with significantly more escalation than you otherwise would have. Gambits and touches that would normally be interpreted as too forward—and thus resisted—are instead welcomed. For example, let’s say that you take a woman’s hand in yours for some innocent and harmless thumb-wrestling. But . . . by taking her hand, you have also just telegraphed interest, and that IOI could very well make her feel more resistant, causing her to pull away. Therefore, you must balance the IOI of taking her hand by adding an IOD calibrator such as by telling her, “Don’t get any funny ideas.”
It’s this slight bit of disinterest that makes it possible to get away with holding her hand when she normally would have pulled away.
Another example of this is to lean back and cross your arms (IOD) as you say, “I’m curious about you . . .” (IOI).
Another example is to hug a woman (IOI), and then push her away saying, “Ok that’s all you get.” (IOD).
Another example is to look away (IOD) as you put your hand on a woman’s shoulder, (IOI) and then a second later, look back in her eyes (IOI) as you release your hand from her shoulder with a little push (IOD).
So, the first principle of microcalibration is to always increase the effectiveness of your IOIs by softening them with an IOD calibrator. This principle should always be at work in your social behavior.
The next principle in microcalibration is to always return disinterest for disinterest. If she gives me an IOD, then I must give her an IOD as well; otherwise I would be rewarding bad behavior. When I take her hand, I am calibrating in real-time to her responses. Does she put her hand in mine and squeeze it a little? Or do I detect even a slight resistance? If I feel that she is pulling back, even slightly, then I will pre-empt things by throwing away her hand.
Because she gave me an IOD (the resistance I felt in her touch), so I will return with an IOD by tossing her hand away with a dismissive brush of my fingers, as if I were discarding a piece of trash. This is called a hand-throw. If you do this properly, she will feel a powerful jolt of devalidation which will condition her to become more compliant in the future, as well as prompt her to put more effort into gaining your attention and approval. She may even become indignant. I’ve received more than one angry “Did you just throw my hand away?!?!” Women really feel the emotion generated by a well-executed hand-throw.
This article will assume basic knowledge of the following:
In any human interaction, there are only four means of communication that take place.
IOIs indicators of interest
IODs Indicators of disinterest
DHVs Demos of high value
DLVs Demos of low value
Add in Compliance Tests (CTs) and a base line of punishment reward and you have social interaction in a formula.
This came about because last year I was finding that with some girls I had to neg a million times to get any IOIs while with others they would ask me for my name right after I opened or tell me I was hot. If I continued DHVing they would get weirded out. However if I started qualifying them it often didn’t take. So I started putting an IOI in before my qualification attempt it went better.
Girl: You’re cute! Where are you from?
Sinn: Buy me a drink before you hit on me! IOD What do you have going for you besides your looks? Compliance test
Sinn: Buy me a drink before you hit on me! IOD You are very pretty IOI.. but beauty is common what do you have going for you besides your looks? CT
The balancing of IOIs and IOD is a key element.
I think of it as a seesaw:
If I throw too may IODs that weighs down one side of the seesaw and I’m an asshole.
If I throw too many IOIs that weighs down the other side making me an AFC
But if I adjust every IOD with a potential IOI and every IOI with a potential IOD I attain balance and my sets work like magic.
Microcalibrating is simply throwing the balancing part of the equation(IOI or IOD) when needed .
Sometimes, for example, you will get sets that will be attracted to you as soon as you open your mouth. Or before.
If a girl approaches you and says she likes your cowboy hat, and you respond with Jealous Girlfriend, you are going backwards in the interaction. By her opening you, she is telling you she is already attracted to you. Therefore we can respond by saying “thanks, what’s your name?” which would be an IOI in return for hers. We can say then based on how readily she answers. If she’s hesitant or doesn’t immediately ask for my name or try to keep the conversation going (IODS). I will then respond with my own IOD ” buy me a drink before you hit on me”. Then immediately follow up with a compliance test ” and your special because?” when she answers this I am now in A3 and can start giving her IOIs.
In this way I have now gotten through attraction in 30 seconds.
However if she refuses to answer or she IODs me when I ask her why she’s special, I still have an out…
Her: ” I’m not special ” or ” why are you special?”
Me: Never mind I was just being polite( IOD) oh you have a u shaped smile… ( DHV)
See how there are contingencies of what to based on what her reactions are?
For those of you who are routine stacking it would look something like this:
Her: ” I like your cowboy hat”
You: ” Thanks I actually need a female opinion, who lies more ”
Her: ” opinion”
You: FTC finish opener, stock neg, First routine, next routine ….. Until you get enough IOIs that you start qualifying and it takes.
By not pausing and looking at reactions you are assuming that what you are doing is working. Which it may not be.
By being able to read IOIs we can move into A3 Faster and ultimately into comfort faster and beyond.
Also by knowing that we are getting an IOD or an IOI we can calibrate any routine mid stream to either IOI or IOD.
Take for example the “may I touch your eyes” Line
Sinn: “You have beautiful eyes” IOI
Girl: while rolling her eyes and thinking another loser ” Thanks” IOD
Sinn: May I touch them? IOD
I change the routine based on the reaction she gives me.
However if the same interaction takes place but goes like this:
Sinn: You have beautiful eyes. IOI
Girl: “Thank you so much no one ever says that to me.” IOI
Now I have a sincere response so there is no need for me to throw the second part of the routine.
We want to be able to compliment girls and give them IOIs, however most girls will not yet be comfortable with that until later.
Microcalibrating is simply the act of watching responses and then tailoring the next action toward the response we just got a simplified version would state that we respond to IOIs with IOIs, IODs with IODs and we constantly test for compliance.
Through microcalibrating based on reactions while following the M3 model we can greatly increase our ability to get results. Microcalibrating also has a place in kino escalation. If I make out with a girl on day 1 and then see her again the next day I will want to test to see where her willingness to kiss me again is, so I microcalibrate. I move in as I hug her and I pause. I now watch to see if she looks nervous or uncomfortable. If she doesn’t I go for it. If she looks uncomfortable then I push her off and increase personal space so that the next time I get close she’s more comfortable and I can go for it. Same thing once we are holding hands I will slide my finger tips away from hers to see if she follows them. Is she does I will pull her closer to me, if she doesn’t I throw her hand off.
A key to microcalibrating is remembering that IODs are not always negs. It would be weird if when a girl refused to qualify herself I told her she was a little shit. Instead they are simply ways of showing that we are not interested, they can be removal of kino, backturns, pauses in the conversation, eye rolls, as well as negs and disqualifiers.
A few other keys to micro calibrating by watching the reactions you’re causing you can either soften or harden a routine
Sinn: You and I are never going to get along”(IOD)
Girl: why not I think we’d get along fine (IOI)
Sinn: we’re too similar IOI But I think our differences will be complimentary IOI
Sinn: You and I are never going to get along”(IOD)
Girl: You’re right we wouldn’t
Sinn: Yeah we would fight all the time, and I’d always win (IOD)
If a target at any time gives me an IOD i will respond in kind. This is the punishment part of our punishment reward sub routine,
however if we are already in comfort the punishment will no longer be negs, instead it will be take aways, and freeze outs. If at any time she gives me an IOI even if it’s as passive as holding my drink, I will reward her until she becomes uncomfortable and gives an IOD then we respond with another IOD, wait for an IOI and if it doesn’t come we compliance test to actively look for IOIs. We can also do this by balancing the amount of value we demonstrate onto a set.
Not every set needs to hear a million routines before they will be willing to talk to you. If have run more than 2 routines in a set and you are not attempting to move on to qualification (A3) you are hurting your game. You want to make sure that you are constanly testing to see where you are. And then trying to advance at the same time. Micro calibrating makes it easy by throwing little adjusters depending on the responses you are getting. It’s not at all reactive to apologize when you over-neg. You will lose a lot more sets by continuing to neg once you’ve offended then by apologizing and qualifying her for standing up for herself.
Microcalibration is the art of adjusting what you’re saying in real time to the reactions you are getting.
Now let’s put this all together. What does Microcalibration look like and how do we do it? Well I found this great video on youtube that explains it pretty damn well from Mystery and the Venusian Arts crew back in the day.
Questions, comments, concerns?
By the way, I gotta give credit where credit is due.
If you want to learn more about all this shit from the sources I provided here check out:
The Mind of Mystery Course
The Sinns of Attraction
Oh and for all you Infield Junkies I will be posting the video and my responses to the guy in the Midlair over the next few days so stay tuned. You can subscribe by email or twitter or whatever over to the right.
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If you know microcalibration, you MAY want to know what bodyrocking is and how to do it. Again, I dug up another video from Mystery and the crew on that as well. The best I know, naturals, puas, lesbians, myself, all incorporate a lot of bodyrocking into our game. It makes you more hypnotic and attractive and sends mixed signals on a subconscious level to those girls you are interacting with, which in the early stages of the interaction can be an invaluable tool to gaining attraction. Also this video talks a lot about delivery. If you can incorporate all these things in this post into your game you will see a HUGE improvement, I promise.