A Radical Approach to Learning Game REALLY Fast

I wanted to introduce you to another ‘partner in crime’ if you will.  His name is Mercutio.  He’s on a pretty advanced level of his game so he can see the insights (Matrix, if you will) and break shit down.  I think he and I have totally different styles of game but the thing is, we are both very good at what we do.  But the point is, I love spreading different ideas of what works.  The way, in my opinion, to really get good is to take what works for you from different guys and build your own badass skillset.

I plan on having Mercutio write a guest article (or 2) in the future for my blog, but for now, I thought THIS particular post was too valuable to NOT post.  So, check it check it out.  Enjoi. ~Ronnie

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A Radical Approach to Learning Game REALLY Fast

« on: February 13, 2013, 03:05 PM »

As some of you know, I’ve been learning french. Kinda a necessity here in France lol.

My opinion — learning a language and game at the same time will get you good at game about 4 times faster, and help you reach a higher level than you would without it.

Did you know that your 3rd or 4th language is about 3-4 times easier to learn than you 2nd? People who learn Esperanto and then another language are better at that other language than people who took only that language. It SEEMS like a waste of time to learn Esperanto, but the fact is the mental framework of how to mentally EXIST in another reality has been created, and now it is easy to learn another language. And in a way, GAME is learning how to exist and think in another reality.

I think the struggles of learning a language would DRASTICALLY benefit most game noobs, bc they have so much of the same learning elements. It will streamline your learning process and help you avoid A LOT of the pitfalls of learning game. Plus, at the end of it, you will be really good with women AND bilingual.

Similarities:

– It’s something that you at first think is IMPOSSIBLE. You are almost afraid to try.

– People think people just have some ‘talent’ that they are born with for it. ‘I just don’t have the ‘gift”. Or they think that if you didn’t learn it by a certain age, you are doomed.

– Starting conversations is EXTREMELY uncomfortable at first. There is REAL FEAR there. At every moment, you will want to escape (to revert to english, or to go back to drinking beer and talking about game with your wings instead of approaching). But I promise you, that is the direction of success. There is no other way to speak a language than to speak a language — you have to jump in sometime, and it is always scary at first.

– There is a ‘fake’ success level. This is hugely important. Ever met someone that claims they can speak English, but then you talk to them and they are like ‘no, you no go there’ or ‘yes, me do that’? Yeah, we can understand them, but its not fluent. But they THINK they are fluent. SAME WITH GAME. There’s a lot of guys out there that are getting laid kinda often by kinda attractive girls — just enough for them to think that they are ‘fluent’. But the truth is, there is always a lot more room for improvement, and when you are fluent, you will KNOW it. The success is like a dam breaking.

The FIELD is KING. A LOT more people can write french than can speak it live. Well, there’s a LOT of people that can write about how to get girls, but can’t do it live either. You can study grammar and vocabulary all day, but if you aren’t out there practicing with REAL LIVE people, you will not be fluent. Plus you will learn to follow the field over theory… if the natives are using this slang now, it doesn’t matter what your fucking book is telling you… that slang is the truth. This will often conflict with the ‘keyboard theorists’, who will hate you, but you should trust your field experience.
-A corollary to this is to ‘follow the pro’s’ — if a native says it like that, it’s probably right. If you see a guy who gets girls do it and get laid, it probably works too.

-A focus on an actual GOAL. My goal in french is not to be the guy that knows every single vocabulary word, or the guy who knows all the grammar rules. My goal is to be able to communicate fluently.
Same with game — your goal in game should not be to be the guy that knows every single theory of every single coach out there, but to be the guy that is absolutely awesome in the field and pulls hot girls. That is the only goal. Stop giving a shit about being well respected on the forum, or being seen as a future ‘coach’ and be the guy that performs extremely well , and you will get everything in the process. If you learn a language at the same time as game, this truth will be self-evident and the lesson will translate across to your game learning without you even thinking about it.

-The more you learn, the more you learn. It’s a J-curve. In the beginning, progress will be brutally slow. You will want to give up. Nothing is coordinated, and you don’t know enough words to make it through basically any sentence. In starting game, you will know a little, but likely not enough to make it through sets successfully. But then this all changes. The more you learn, the more you open the door to learning more. You will be better at speaking, so more people will be willing to speak with you, so you learn more. You aren’t getting shot down off the bat, so your sets last 5-10 mins, instead of 15 seconds. There is a CLEAR tipping point in game, where all of a sudden momentum is on your side and you know enough to REALLY start to learn more.

– Just like a language, game is something that once you are good at it, you don’t even have to THINK about. You almost forget you know it, or how incredibly much you actually know. It’s immensely frustrating for someone who knows it to try and teach someone who doesn’t, bc its just instinctive. It’s like ‘oh shit, you don’t know what ‘triangle’ means?’ ‘I dunno why, it just SOUNDS right, that would work’. ‘How could you have thought that girl DIDN’T like you — she was giving you the sign to take her home!!’
– At the same time, its also REALLY annoying to be fluent, and have someone who isn’t correct you on how to do it bc they read it in a book.

– It’s like a subscript that is running without you even knowing it. Just like how in French I am translating into English without even thinking, in game I am translating into meaning the same way, instantly and instinctively. ‘Ahh, that move was too needy’ ‘That guy is being too chill — that’s gotta be her husband’ etc…

-It gets “quicker” – remember how Mystery said at first game is just racing by you, but then later it just slows down. Same with a language — at first you are overwhelmed, you’re like ‘I CAN’T THINK THAT FAST!!!’ Then like three weeks later, you are like, wow, holy shit, I have all this time to think.

– You have REALLY bad days, and REALLY good days. Some days, you feel like a king — you can understand like everything. Then there are days that you just can’t understand shit and you feel embarrassed. Learning a language will teach you patience.

– Teaches you how to avoid VAPOR-LOCK – this is what I call ‘I am thinking too much, I don’t know what to say’ syndrome. I fuck up ALL THE TIME in french, but it’s better to fuck it up and get the meaning across, than to pause and pause and pause while I compute all the grammar in order to say it perfectly. The lesson from this is to keep what you have running in your mind decently light and not overload your mental capacities. Now, still strive to improve, but in the field, you need to be able to flow and allow mistakes.

– Teaches you to be consistent a little at a time. Just a little bit of practice each day will make a huge difference.

– It is easily maintained, but you lose it decently quick if you let it rot — every guy on this forum has had great game at one point in time, then got a gf, then broke up and had to re-learn some shit. It doesn’t take a lot to keep yourself in tip-top shape, always practice your game even if you wouldn’t actually follow through on it.

Anyways, there’s a lot more. But I honestly, honestly, honestly, think every newb should learn a language at the same time they are learning game. The principles cross over perfectly, and you will have learned how to learn game in a very efficient manner that will make I think will cut your learning time down by at least half, likely more. Plus, you will be bilingual, which is fucking awesome. Btw, knowing even just an ounce of another language in America is an instant deal-sealer with any girl that speaks it. My french gets me laid in America by girls that can speak even a basic level — plus it gives us an inside conspiracy element. With spanish, you will have to know more to be impressive, but if you know even 300 words in Russian, you will get laid at least twice a year in River North with Eastern Europeans, Ukrainians, and Russians.

-Merc

How do you think this can improve your overall skillset with women?

Do you have ideas or thoughts to add to this and share?  I would like to hear them.

Want to know more about Mercutio?  Stay Tuned.

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Follow Your Dreams

Themesong of the Day:

I’m a little drunk right now, but I know I know I know.  I’m a dick for not updating my blog for centuries.  But whatever…

Follow your dreams.  This is gonna be quick because I really am not competent enough to write very creatively.  Well wait.  I am not really that drunk.  I am over-exaggerating for prose and pomp.  But I did have some drinks.  A friend and I just won a trivia contest at Uptown Lounge in Uptown of all places.

No no..  We were sucking.  Science?  Fail.  Comedians?  We did ok.  Some other category?  Meh!…  But then the guy behind the microphone said we had one and a half minutes to list as many 80s cartoons as we could.

I mean…  It was pretty much over at that point.  I was listing things like Tranzor Z and Galaxy Rangers.  Diggin Deep.  Yes yes, there were also the smurfs and the gummie bears and voltron and bugs bunny and mighty mouse and danger mouse and..  I mean, I and my partner in trivial crime were just writing for 1 and a half minutes straight.

So fuck science and some comedian I never heard of that played in some obscure movie.  I know who Penfold is, bitch!

Penfold from Dangermouse

So…

We won a $25 tab and pretty much used it up.   I think, also, I kinda feel obligated to go back next week, even though I suck at Trivia, and defend my title.  Jennifer, you fucking ass, we should have never broke up because I could totally use you on my trivia team right about now.  Plus I miss your ass…  And legs…

But look.  So what the hell does that have to do with Follow Your Dreams?

Well, today I bartended at a private event for some company called 1872 or something like that.   This was part of getting hired at my 2nd bartending job.   No no no…  Not second as in, I just got fired for being a dipshit drunk at my last place, but my second of 2 current positions that I have.  One for a place located pretty much in the center of the City of Chicago – a busy place with a fantastic lunch and dinner/happy-hour crowd.  And another for a Staffing company that sends bartenders to work events, parties and catering blah blah.

Which is cool, because I did cater to a catering company tonight.  And the tips were not that great.  But it was an open bar, so it was to be expected.  But guess what?  At the end of it all there was a big tray of unserved and untouched rack of lamb.  No..  Not the 5 rack that you pay $30 for at a restaurant.  No, this was a giant tray of several racks with about 10 or 15 rack slabs ready to go.  Unfortunately, the chefs did not serve them since, apparently, they were overcooked (meaning beyond medium rare) so none of the chefs (self-proclaimed as “spoiled” from eating good food all the time) wanted to take them home.  So unfortunately (double) I was forced to take 2 of those giant racks home for myself.  (I hope you sensr the sarcasm in my writing).

I love lamb.

And I was just given probably $50 or so worth of lamb to eat at my leisure.

So…  I am in it to win it.  I will get into details as we go on.   But I figured, last you heard, my life was a shambles, though I was fighting for life.  (Well, that’s a big dramatic, innit.  Not really life, but maybe a job).  And things have changed.  For now, just be happy that I am living proof of following your dreams.  I have a full time bartending job at a place I never figured I would be able to get hired at, located in the center of downtown Chicago, and I have a second job to back me up.

I have a buzz, and I have lamb.

Guess what’s next?

Time to get back on the Seduction Train…..

PS – There was a female robot on Tranzor Z ( a children’s cartoon) that shot her tits at her enemies.  Not kidding.

What to Write About?

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It’s interesting how a person can trick themselves into not thinking they have anything to talk about or that they can’t think of anything to write about.  I just had a spotty conversation with a girl who was next to me in the coffeeshop, and she was giving me a shot.  She wanted to see what I was all about but my conversation was choppy.  I kept talking about crap topics.  And crap topics can be ok, if there is a flow.

But the point is, all around me there is stuff.  I am in Chicago; one of the Major Cities on this earth.  I am in Kickstand Coffeeshop.  They call it Kickstand Espresso Bar which, when I actually look, they have a bar type setup where they make the espresso. Not the regular espresso machine behind the counter or off in a corner with a service area like at Starbucks.  Yep, they have a bar and there are actually 3 people sitting up at the bar like it’s a real bar.  There are 2 old bicycles on the wall.  There is art on the walls; Battleships, Deathstar, Burlesque chick, things everywhere to talk about.  Things everywhere to write about; people, places, things.  Even now, as I write this I am more focused on what I am writing, whether it is any good or not instead of flowing like I usually do.

So welcome, to my expirament!  My purpose to to push past the cobwebs and break through to reality.  I think we all get like this sometimes.  Our minds are clouded with stuff that has nothing to do with what’s really going on in our reality and we miss all the cool shit happening right in front of our faces.  I’m sure I’m not the first person to point this out to you either.  We get so caught up in our work, or that thing that happened at work, or am I doing the right thing or what will something think if I do “THIS”, is this the right time, what will make the biggest impact, I don’t want to sound uncool.

My favorite times are when I flow, like Bruce Lee (like water), I flow.  I don’t think about what I’m doing and saying – I just do and say, and THOSE times are always the BEST times of my life.  I think my personal preference would to be like that all the time.  I will throw out some excuses and then examine each one.  These are my excuses right now as to why my conversation was shit with that girl and why I am not flowing today (even though – as I push forward – my writing is starting to f-l-oooo….wwwwwwwwwwwwwww.  Got to – push past!).

  • I had a shitty sleep day yesterday so I am recovering today.
  • I have a headache.
  • I’m not in the mood to talk to someone really.
  • I don’t know what to say.
  • How can I get her into bed?  I need to do the right thing…  (yes – most of you are new to my life since I have made it my mission to freestyle this blog but as we go along you will understand, I promise.  And my guess is – it will be a fun ride.  Alright – no more cheezy self-plugs 😉
So here we go.
  • I had a shitty sleep day yesterday so I am recovering today.

Well that’s EXACTLY why you should be enjoying the fuck out of today – SQUEEZE the juice out of life.  You Love talking to people and most of the time people like talking to you.  What kind of kickassness can you bring into someone else’s day?  How many memories do you have of lighting people up like a lightbulb?
  • I have a headache.

Cool so that means you can’t talk?  Don’t want to talk?  Well, I do want to talk to people.  It’s what I do best.  I am able.  So earlier today I say the guy in my ally.  I think of him as the Bazaar merchant.  He’s a homeless guy with only 1 hand.  He has a shopping cart, but it is not filled with his belongings.  No man, he’s always got stuff to sell.  Where does he get it?  From the Trash.  It’s stuff people throw out, and I know this because I saw him going through the trash.  Now some people will knock that shit.  They will say, “fucking bum going through the trash!”  But man, look.  Some people do marketing online.  Some people do real estate.

You know what I was doing for the past year?  Making money off free shit.  How?  I was a leasing agent for real estate.  Technically I still should be but my brain is shouting to follow my dreams.  And then I come across writings like this guy’s that screw me up even more: http://wayneelise.com/2011/07/fat-captain-america.html

What I mean by “screw up” is that I have been doing some serious thinking.  You may already know if you are reading this or you may not.  So I feel like I have a gift.  I know writing is one of them.  I know exploring is another.  I know Travelling is another.  I know I also have a gift to inspire, move, light up -people.  I think I need to use it more.

What is stopping me?  Sleep problems.  Money.  I need to have a secure job to pay my bills.

But man, really?

Ok – the sleep problems I am looking into.  I have someone who is supposed to follow up with me for a sleep study soon.  I read a pretty cool article here:

Whoa!  Check this out.  So I read this article the other day that inspired me to get a free sleep study.  I tried it.  I emailed all over the place asking for a sleep study and I got someone who is helping me.  All I have is the Google Cache – the WEBSITE has taken it down?  Now when you click on the link it goes to another article on how to get a good nights sleep.  If you are suffering from some sort of sleep problem, an article like that is useless.

So here’s what I’m gonna do, because I feel like it was so much of a good article it should be posted somewhere.  I am going to copy it into my blog and credit the author.  If he wants me to take it down later – cool, I will.  But that shit totally helped me, at least motivated me, to get the ball rolling and seek out a sleep study on my own, even though I could not afford it.  If I find later that they restore the article I will maybe remove mine.  🙂

Done and Done.  Where was I?

So the guy in the ally.  He has more than a headache.  He has no home.  No job.  And whenever I drive by him and ask, “How’s it goin?” he’s says, “I got up today!  I’m here!” and he’s happy about it.  I actually bought a bottle of Shout from him one night.  It coulda been mostly water for all I know but he was out there trying.  I can hear some business marketer saying, “Ya well he isn’t trying to his full potential because if he was he could do more with himself than sell trash out of a shopping cart.”  But I disagree.  The thing is we are all given a gift, BUT it is SUPER hard to find.

I have made a decision to follow my gift, my path, and I have no idea how I’m going to make it pay for my rent, buy my food, but then again – THAT’S the shit that stops me from following my path, and that’s the scary part.  It’s like, life wants to offer us this cool path.  It’s like the ‘Golden Path to Happiness’ (or the rainbow path or whatever color you want) but the problem is, it looks like shit.  It is scary to follow and most people never take that path.  I promise you.  Ask someone working in that cubicle what they wanted to do with their life.  Did they want to work in a cubicle?  DO they want to even now?  No, man!  They have dreams!  They have that happy place in their mind that they are trying to figure out how to get to.

I’m wondering – is that path blocked by illusions?  Is it blocked by smoke and mirrors.  It’s kinda like in those movies where…  Well take a look:

Is that metaphor?  Could that be a metaphor for all of our lives?  It’s fucking like, “Shit!  I’m gonna fall, if I go that way, into that deep dark pit!  Then I’ll be dead!  That sucks!  But look – over there on the other side is the thing that I REALLY want.  There are my dreams over there!  Maybe I’ll go look for a safer way around…”

But what if there isn’t one. (for the record, I was supposed to be in the scholastic olympics when I was in school for English Grammar.  I completely  understand the rules I break:  Run-on sentences, starting sentences with But or And, maybe even spelling words in ways I feel they make more sense, but that is the BEAUTY of art and to me writing is my art – so I will create!  Not that you were nitpicking but I really wanted to get that out since everytime I make one of those grammatical errors I make a mental note.  😉  What if there is no other path.  What if the key to taking your path is just going through the illusion and just going!  You might fall.  You may die.

Buh’hut – would you rather die after having tried and failed, OR would you rather play it safe, never find out and die old regretting that you never took a chance?

So here I am at that part in my life.  I could be a leasing agent.  I could sell apartments and then eventually get into apartment sales.  I live in Chicago and I am pretty much broke.  I moved here – why?  Because I liked cities. I do like it here, but I can’t say that I might not like somewhere else better.

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I’m just a regular guy that had a dream and ran for it.

And if I’m supposed to be following this dream and that dream takes me somewhere else, I mean, that sounds fucking exciting!  I have left and went to a few different places now with almost no money but I keep ending up not where I want to be.  I mean, I like it, I have fun.  I have met some amazing people and had some awesome experiences (thank you ladies – you know who you are!  ;p ) but I always manage to end up back here.  I always start writing and I want to keep writing.  I want to share.  I want to just write it down.

Do I wanna use my writing creatively?  Do I wanna use it to make screenplays?  I have thought about it.  But really I just like to write, adventure, experience, write.  I think if I were to do a screenplay I would want to do my first one along a successful screen play writer.  That is a TASK and not necessarily what I mean by, “I want to write.”  I just enjoy doing what I’m doing right now.  For all I know half the people reading this are like, “Fuck this shit!  What the hell is this guy rambling about?  What’s the point?”  Maybe not.  Maybe someone, somewhere can find something in all this blah blah that means something to them.

Maybe someone else will read this and be inspired to throw all the bullshit aside and follow their dreams too.  And if that happens?  My work here is DONE!  1 Person pulled from a life of meaningless blah and into a place where things start clicking …  I don’t even need to know about it.  You don’t have to write me a thankyou letter.  If you did, kick ass!  I will take it.  But a simple thanks for the audio tape I will review when I die will suffice.

So here I go.  My life experiment.  To see where following my deepest dreams take me.  I like writing and I think I am good at it.  Here we go!

(yes yes yes – I understand I didn’t address the other points.  Maybe later… 😉

Now go back up and click the word “shitty”.

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