So I got into a little discussion on twitter. There is an article about a study that was done by @Single_N_Dating that suggests that:
So let’s get into it with some EXAMPLES of MISSING the WINDOWS:
Another time I was with a girl. I fucked her at her house. I REALLY liked this girl too. It was the third time we got together. She asked me to spend the night. I had an old dog at that time, and I loved him. And I knew he was on his last legs, and I worked all the fucking time so I wanted to be there for him as much as possible. I didn’t want him to be alone at night. So i couldn’t stay the night. I told her this exact reason.
A couple days later she texted me she had a lot going on and couldn’t see me anymore. She opened that, “Let’s take things further” window and I failed to step through. She didn’t hear anything about a dog. She SPONTANEOUSLY FELT that MOMENT, Opened the window and I failed to step through, so that window CLOSED never to open again.
I never saw that girl again.
Recently I was dealing with some health issues. I had a girl who I just closed, and she also started to like me. She called me one day after I talked to her on the phone and told me she wanted to come see me after work. Because my health issues were fucking me up, I didn’t call her back. Guess what? Same story. She sort of disappeared off the map. When she FELT that SPONTANEOUS urge to reach out and take things to the next level, she opened that WINDOW and I failed to step through, never to have that window open again.
When he went back to try and re-initiate with the girl he said she acted Weird and unresponsive. That’s right, you guessed it. When she FELT that SPONTANEOUS moment and he didn’t take advantage she chalked it up to her imagination, felt that he MUST NOT be the guy she thought he was (incongruence) and when he tried to reopen that window she felt WEIRD about it.
EXAMPLES – Doing it Right!
Anyone with any experience at this game knows what that means… For those of you who don’t (or are just literalists) she wanted to fuck me in my car. Oh the glory of seeing her laying back on my car seat with those huge boobs out for the first time! 😉
On a date with a girl, who said she wanted a cigarette, but we were only on our FIRST DRINK on our date. I felt like that was a hint from her to me, because we were just talking about sexuality. I suggested we go to my place, because she could smoke there and it was only a couple blocks away. She smoked her cigarette and soon she was giving me what I still consider the best blowjob of my life and she had one of the most amazingly clean and yummy vaginae (I still can’t get over the plural of the word vagina). I have ever came across.
A girl was at my place and she said pretty early on, “I am NOT fucking you.” But she stuck around and kept shit-testing me while we drank some wine. I kept escalating despite her resistance but she STAYED. That whole thing was a WINDOW. She kept it open as long as I was stepping through and within an hour or so she said, “Why don’t you just fuck me already and get it over with.” If I would have took her resistance at face value and stopped escalating (PS for those of you playing at home, this is not the weird Rapee escalation shit so many feminists are yammering about. It is simply verbal sparring, touching a little but push pulling, maybe some RJ style escalation patterning, and always giving her the OPTION to leave. I always sit in a place where the girl has an easy way out. That shows her subconsciously you are not trying to corner her. I always sit so she has EASY access to the closest door out, and even in this case when she said, “I’m not fucking you tonight.” I simply replied, “Well I don’t know what you’re doing here then. If there’s 0% chance of us fucking you may just want to go home so we both don’t waste any time.”
A girl I was serving once back in the day when I was a server, gave me her facebook at my suggestion because I was working and figured it would be too much to get her number while serving her. (Calibration is a powerful thing.) Later she sent me a friend request that I accepted. She lived in Marathon and I lived in Key West. A couple days later I saw her Status Update on her wall, that was NOT addressed to me or anyone else in particular which said, “Heading to the Keys today to do a little sight seeing.”