Synchrodestiny – Your Excuse to Seduce Without Fear

This is an article I wrote a while back for Cliff’s List, and I figured it was about time I dropped it on my own blog, with the usual tweaks and updates.  This is another one of those articles you’ll probably have to bookmark or revisit because it’s DEEP.

Enjoi…

Synchrodestiny –  Your Excuse to Seduce Without Fear

My life. It has been interesting, tough, had lots of painful shit going on, lots of things I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy that have happened to me.

This is not a sob story though. Because I have also had a lot of cool, kick ass experiences. I went on 4 dates last week, had sex with a new girl, went out with one girl twice, ran into another girl in a grocery store who I got a number from before who I never went out with, but who wants to. My business is doing well. I’m not even really marketing, but since I tend to teach these guys who come to me how to get successful with women, from point A to point F and beyond, I get great feedback. I just talked to Handler who I haven’t seen in a while and he said he had an LTR all winter, for example. The guys who I work with are kicking ass.

I live in Chicago, I have a pretty cool life outside of pickup that I really enjoy.

Life is good!

But the point is that I could have given up long ago, really just said fuck it, life sucks… If I didn’t come across a few books that started teaching me that EVERYTHING that happens is for a purpose.

There is no such thing as coincidence! The good things, the bad things, the seemingly random things… The situations where you are tested and fail. The other times when you are challenged and you succeed. The friends you make. The people who hate you. The girls you make love to, and the ones that call you a creepy fuck. The times when you feel like you are on top of the world. The times when the pain is so bad life feels hopeless.

None of it is coincidence. There is a purpose to all of it.

The 2 things we will focus on in this topic:

1. Synchrodestiny
2. Intention

Let’s get into FIRST, a couple interesting specific scientific examples, and then I will help you apply it to your seduction game. If you can learn and apply this concept, approach anxiety does NOT EXIST. There will be a whole myriad of things that you can improve upon in this game by applying this concept I am about to tell you. But first, the mad Science!!

You ever watch a group of sparrows fly?

If you know what I’m talking about you know that a large group of sparrows can fly amazingly fast in a big swarm and seem completely in sync. The whole group of them turns, goes up, down and around super fast, and they don’t crash into each other. Quite the opposite, they move as one.

“How is this happening? There’s not enough time for any exchange of information, so any correlation of activity among the birds must be happening nonlocally.

Physicists have been working for years to discover the properties that guide the movements of birds, and so far they have been unsuccessful. The complexity and absolute precision of the birds’ behavior stumps physical science every time. Engineers have been studying the movement of birds to see if there is a way to discover principles that might translate into solutions for traffic jams.” So far, with all the technology we have at our disposal, they have found it impossible to do.

There was a study done by scientist Rupert Sheldrake where they discovered that dogs knew when their human masters were on their way home. They installed cameras to watch the dogs. The dogs seemed to know when their masters were on their way home. They would move by the door and wait, etc. Even if they took the person to a completely random place at a random time the dogs seemed to know when their master was on the way back.

http://www.sheldrake.org/books-by-rupert-sheldrake/dogs-that-know-when-their-owners-are-coming-home

As most of us learned in science class, the universe is made up of both solid particles and waves. In other words, the chair you are sitting on, or the phone you are holding or the computer you are reading this on, is made up of little atoms that are actually NOT solid. They are forms of energy. But why are they solid to us? How can I sit in a chair that is made up of small particles of energy that are not solid?

But even more interesting is the waves. When they study the particles in a wave packet (measurement of a wave) there were two questions asked that had interesting results.

Where is it? What is its momentum?

Scientists discovered you can ask ONE but NOT BOTH of these questions.

Where is it fixes the wave particle to one spot. It becomes a PARTICLE.

What is its momentum? Movement becomes the critical factor so it is no longer a particle, it is a WAVE.

It depends on the question you ask as to whether it is a particle or a wave. It is the intention you have that determines what it is. This goes deeper, even to the point where Albert Einstein studied this, but you look that shit up on your own. I don’t want to bore most of the readers with scientific jargon. But understanding this stuff may shed some light on what I’m talking about.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wave–particle_duality

But let’s get even deeper with one last example. A scientist had swabbed his mouth and put the swab under a microscope. He was watching the cells that were no longer a part of his body. He was going to make a small incision in his finger with a scalpel and study the cells. He discovered that, even by going to get the scalpel, without even cutting himself, that the cells under the microscope were already acting erratically where they were not before. In other words, these cells, no longer attached to his body, were still worried that the body was going to be cut. Just the INTENTION affected them.

http://www.thesoundofsoul.com/?page_id=166

That same guy studied the cells of a guy who was looking at a naked pic of Bo Derek in Playboy. Even though the guys reading it said, “I don’t think she’s a 10,” his cells were bouncing all over. When the magazine was closed they stopped.

If you read and study up on a lot of this stuff you will start to see my point and that is that MANY things that happen in everyday life are not just surface level but they are happening on a VERY DEEP ASS level. So deep that we cannot even comprehend what the hell is going on behind the scenes.

Some have even suggested crazy shit like a butterfly beating its wings in Texas that causes a typhoon a week or so later in japan.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Butterfly_effect

1 more!

“There is a fascinating phenomenon in science known as the “multiples effect.” The multiples effect is when multiple people geographically isolated from one another come up with the exact same discovery at the exact same time. By 1922 there had been 148 major scientific breakthroughs identified to have been discovered in such a way. Here are just a FEW examples:

– Evolution (Darwin and Wallace)
– Calculus (Newton and Leibniz)
– Decimal fractions – 3 people
– Sunspots – 4 people in 1611
– Law of conservation of energy – 4 people in 1847
– Steamboat – 4 people
– Telescope – 9 people
– Thermometer – 6 people

Is it really possible that all 148 major discoveries happened at the exact same time coincidentally by people who were not sharing their ideas with each other?”

http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/scientific-proof-that-our-minds-are-all-connected-the-multiples-effect/

There are studies that suggest we are all connected on a deeper level, too. You can simply Google “we are all connected” to delve into that.

So check this out…

What if you, reading this right now, are part of a greater plan? What if you learning Seduction is for more reasons you can even fathom? What if your intention to become better with women is part of a grander scheme of things that go beyond you?

Everything that happens has a greater purpose.

Let’s talk about that.

Say you get up with the INTENTION of sarging. Your intention is to go out and meet women. You take a shower at a certain time, you get ready, put on clothes. You pick a destination and even a time you will go to that destination. Even if it’s loosely based, you still have the intention of doing so and are taking time out of your day to do so.

What if… just what if, life was taking place at a deeper level? So let’s say you get there, to wherever it is you decided to go. You see a girl you like. Your brain says to you, “Go talk to her…” What if you knew on a deep level that all of that was meant to happen?

Not that your brain was telling you to go talk to her because you should be afraid and have anxiety. But what if you were part of something on a WAY deeper level than you realized and you were SUPPOSED to go talk to that girl, and that she was supposed to interact with you?

I’m saying, what if life was happening? Your intention to go meet a woman, and her intention to do whatever it was she had decided to do that day – what if those things were happening on some universal level to give you to the opportunity to interact with each other?

Sure, you could choose not to talk to her. Particle or wave. But what if her being there was life’s gift to you for your intention? It may be to meet her, have a cool time, make a good friend, and even possibly fuck her. Or it could be for you to LEARN something. It might even be for you to TEACH something. Maybe it’s so you take 1 minute out of her day for her to tell you, “Fuck off, creep!” but that 1 minute saved her from crossing an intersection somewhere and getting hit by a bus. Or maybe she feels bad 10 minutes later, wonders why she had that reaction, and is inspired to do something good that she might not have done.

There are millions of different possibilities.

Maybe you would like a visual example:

Run Lola Run. This is a GREAT movie everyone should watch in their life. But watch this scene with the guy on the bike and then the flash forward of what happens. Later in the movie she makes a different choice and something different happens. But I’m not one for spoilers and this is a GREAT movie so… Watch it yourself.

But what if the intentions we have and the decisions we make have a profound effect on the things around us? And not only that, but what if they are also part of a huge, deep, complicated ORDER out of the seemingly chaotic world we live in?

What if, you not approaching that girl is like slapping life in the face?

What if you not escalating, because you are afraid to fail, is like not living the gift that life has given you?

What if you go and get blown out 10 times in a row, but you learn something you don’t even realize you learned? Or maybe life was just testing you to see how you would handle it?

Because I know there are days where I go out and blow out after blow out after blow out happen, and then the very next day I do ONE approach and end up sleeping with that girl.

It happens. It just happened to me last week with a girl I had sex with last week. I can go into detail but it’s a whole other report:

https://librachronicles.wordpress.com/2014/06/20/lr-hb-creole-legs/

I had been out for a couple days before that with nothing sticking, and boom, I meet a chick and we have sex a couple days later. This is pretty common for me.

What if, even further, your intention to be good at seduction alone is enough? What I mean is, because just by writing that I realize that seeing the women I hook up with is NOT ALWAYS when I plan on meeting them. I might be doing something completely random. Maybe I’m in a grocery store to grab some food and I see a girl looking at lettuce. The 2 choices are, particle or wave… I could let her be there, because the mind says, in this order:

1. She’s cute. Go talk to her.
2. No. I’m shopping right now. I need to get food.

But what if you just assumed she was there, at that moment, so you could meet her? Then you wouldn’t be afraid to approach her. In other words, you went to the store at X time to Y place and walked down Z isle, not because of random chance, but because THAT girl was going to be there at THAT specific time so that YOU could have an opportunity to interact with you and SHE could have an opportunity to interact with you.

Are you following me?

There is no coincidence. Not in my life. Every single thing that happens; good, bad, ugly; I feel there is a greater reason for. If we can begin to look at life around us as something we are supposed to take part of, not this old, scared APART mentality that the community has that, “Approaching is scary because when we were cavemen you could get killed if you approached the wrong girl…” By the way, I completely disagree with that. I think it’s as simple as our egos. Our egos think we are amazing creatures and by going and talking to a girl, and her rejecting us, then it “proves” that we aren’t as awesome as we thought were, and that’s a scary thing.

But what if the difference between that Tribal Leader who was fucking all the cave woman bitches, and the rest of the guys who were getting sloppy seconds OR who were not getting any, was simply that Tribal Leader guy was more apt to ACT upon the situations life gave him. Maybe instead of thinking that life was making things difficult, scary or whatever – he took it all as life giving him a gift or OPPORTUNITY, whether that be for material gain, to learn something new, to do one of a million possible things, but at least take it as a gift to ACT upon?

So I’m saying, when you see these girls from now on, start telling yourself she is there for you to interact with on some level. Start trying to see the connections around you. By the way, I can tell you now that once you get good at looking at life like this, you will start to get MAD perceptive abilities. You will start to see things before they happen. At first you won’t realize it. Something will happen and you’ll be like, “Oh, I knew that was gonna happen.” Maybe that happens to you now a little from time to time.

The KEY of this, by the way, is not to think MORE. It is to think LESS. Don’t try and think, just be.

Cute girl. Go talk. Done.

Not, Cute girl, oh but maybe she’s waiting for someone, besides I’m really thirsty and need some water, oh and she might reject me anyway, and besides we’re at a bus stop, and I’m dressed like shit….

Because if you assumed that ALL of that (those excuses) were actually part of a greater plan that, try as you might, you couldn’t begin to understand then none of those things could hold you back.

She’s waiting for someone, I’m thirsty, might reject you, at a bus stop, dressed like shit now becomes – “Well, life knew that shit was gonna be all in place anyway so THINGS ARE, AS EXACTLY AS THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO BE IN THIS MOMENT. Time to go talk to that beautiful girl.

When you get all locked up with things like KINO, or ESCALATION or, WHAT TO SAY NEXT, or the 100 other sticking points that are caused by fear…maybe you can tell yourself that this is supposed to be this way. I can go ahead and escalate because I’m supposed to at least try. That’s why I’m here. If it works or it doesn’t, it was supposed to be that way. I embraced life.

Can you dig it?

Your intention + No such thing as coincidence + You seeing that cute girl = Life’s gift to you.

Make sense?..

RL

SIDECAR:

You wanna see this shit in Action?  There’s this scene that illustrates exactly my thought process of how this all works in one of my Favorite Movies, Le Fabuleux Destin d’Amélie Poulain.

She seems to be aware and tapped into this concept the whole movie which is one of the 100 reasons I love this work of art.  Check this clip out.

SIDECAR II:

I’ve been having AMAZING results with my new E-Course.

Basically, man, I have been having guys telling me it is doing their lives a complete 180.  I have especially geared it for people who have Social Anxiety, Depression, and many other things I had to deal with myself when I first got into this game.  This is not a joke.  This is over 10 years of research, trial, error and success from someone who was more fucked up than you are now, by FAR, when I first started.  (I will write about that soon, I promise.)

Ecourse 1 Ecourse 2

Anyway, there are 2 tiers we can work with.  JUST the inner game stuff?  OR a combination of Inner game and a PICKUP Skills as well.  I like to say we do this for a month of Mentoring but honestly, I’m an “in the moment” type guys so I tend to lose track of time anyway…  As usual this is mostly custom tailored to what you are dealing with specifically.

Tier 1:  Inner Game Course: $500 for 1 month of mentoring over email/fb/skype.

Tier 2:  Inner and Outer Game Course: $1000 for 1 month of mentoring over email/fb/skype.

I suck at marketing so I don’t have a fancy email list or squeeze-page or any of that shit.  If you are interested, just email me and we can set up a FREE consultation.

Ronnie.libradating@gmail.com

OR you can hit me up on FB:

https://www.facebook.com/ronnielibra

Evolve your Sexuality – 5 Fundamentals of The Sexual Life

tsod:

Check it check it out…  It’s time for another Re-Blog by yours truely, Ronnie Libra.  Again, I didn’t write this article.  Before you get into it, I will warn you, it’s long.  BUT Its totally worth every man and woman with an interest in being in touch with their sexuality, and even making better connections with those you’re crushing on…  Now a little glossary of terms…  The “Seduction Community” is kind of this group of marketers and guys who get together to try and “Sell” seduction.  They try and give guys an idea that there is supposed to be some fast track to seducing the women, that mostly relies on memorized lines, gambits, tactis, and this whole “fake yourself” mentality.

YUCK!  But there are a very select few guys out there who are on the level, stand up guys, and Steve Mayeda just so happens to be one of them…  You may have read about him in my post “Sometimes I Just Want to Play Video Games”.  I’m a super dick when it comes to guys trying to teach this stuff.  I can be very critical of them, because I really feel a lot of guys teaching the concept of picking up or seducing women are full of shit.   So I have a feeling that if you read this article you will find it pretty enlightening, the real deal.  You dig?  So sit back, grab a glass of your favorite swag and enjoy this read.  I think you’ll find it’s worth the time…  Anyway, enough of my yammering – Enjoi – Oh and feedback is welcome, definitely share your thoughts.  ~Ronnie L (only a slight beer buzz right now)

Sex – Life – Confusion 

We live life but we are afraid

We fear experience we want to control our outcomes

We search for meaning and definition, and forget purpose

 

We fear sex but we want sex

We obsessed over sex but it has become more fantasy than reality

We are ashamed of sex and we are consumed by it.

 

We wonder why we are so confused. 

What is your sexuality? 

What is your life?

 

 

Sex is one of the most natural human acts and it has become distorted.   Something that is normal, natural and one of the highest forms of communication has become a point of confusion and frustration.

 

To get back to that natural state of sexuality and living a fulfilling life we need to cultivate and maintain a good mindset.

We need to realize how important and vital sex is to our lives.

 

With working these 5 fundamentals your Sexual Life will be more about an expression and exchange of you and another person rather than trying to make you be something you’re not.

 

The Sexual Life’s goal is to end the desperate search trying to fulfill a lost identity.

 

The fundamentals of the Sexual Life are –

* Identity

* Connection

* Self-Acceptance

* Sex is a part of Life

* Everyone is Sexual


First we need to understand what I mean by the Sexual Life –

 

To be Sexual there is –

 

Sex – The Act

Seduction – The Process

Sexuality – The Result of Sex and Seduction

 

 

To live Life there is –

 

Identity – Who you are really are, rather than a façade

Experience – Your experiences not just your actions

Purpose – What fuels you rather than simply your results

 

 

 

The 5 key fundamentals will be the path to your Sexual Evolution

—–

 

1 – Identity –

Live your life, not your lie 

 

At the core of all personal change YOU need to be in it.  At the core of your sexuality YOU need to be in it.

You need to be you.  Not a façade, not a fake identity, not an act.  Yes you might borrow some things from people you might ‘fake it till you make it’, but you need to come back to you.

I have seen this lack of authenticity fuck more people up than anything else in the Seduction, Self-help and the Recovery/Addiction industries.

 

It is as if WE are afraid to be in the equation to OUR path of change.  It is as if we are afraid to have sex without an image guiding us.

 

In my 5 years of teaching the most angry, pissed off, dysfunctional and frustrated clients all have one thing in common – They bought into an idea, that told them –

they could have what they wanted by not being themselves.

There are nothing wrong with methods, systems and actions that teach you a new way to live; however how these things are sold is that they work independent of that person’s life.   A system can only accent who you already are.

 

Why anyone would want a life outside of themselves is something to question, if this is what you’re looking for a ‘quick fix’ product isn’t going to help you.  It will most likely fuck you up more.  Every move you make in your life should not be detached from who you are.

 

To experience means you are affected, you might feel joy and you might feel pain.  The key is to not live reactions of those things.

You need to be proud of yourself.  You need to be you.  If you throw your life to the side to be something you’re not that act alone takes away your pride, and puts you on a path of self-hate.

 

As a culture we are afraid of sex and afraid of being ourselves.   We would rather be in love with a fantasy than to feel the rich intimacy, vulnerability and love that sex can offer.   Sex has become an exaggeration of porn and on the other end shame.  This is all because we are unwilling to be ourselves with someone else.

 

 

2 – Connection – 

There are few things more beautiful than connecting with another human being.  Connection is the exchange of intimacy, passion, chaos and humanity. 

 

We forget this.

We forget that sex is simply an act of connection, we forget that our happiness is dependent upon how we connect with the world around us.

 

Biological beings cannot live without some connection within their species.   It is built into us.

Yet we look at sex as a society as something we can get, take, dominate or have.   Sex is the ultimate act of sharing.   If you meet get married it is an exchange…

If you meet a woman and have a single night rendezvous it is an exchange.  If you hire a prostitute it is an exchange.

 

We are afraid to share.  We are afraid to exchange.

Why is this?

There are 2 reasons that come to mind

1 – We are afraid to show ourselves

2 – We are afraid to be affected by others

 

You see in the ‘quick fix’ nature of self-help and seduction industries the general theme is that you can simply reap the benefits they offer without having to really be you.  You won’t get hurt, you won’t get affected in any ways that bring you pain.  Their method will stop the pain of loneliness and depression and you’ll be great all without having to face yourself.

 

We have more faith in Prozac than working through our problems.  Don’t get me wrong, if you’re seriously depressed seek help, there is nothing wrong with taking prescribed drugs if you need them.  However, many people get prescriptions that don’t need them.

What the problem is with many of these drugs that numb your depression, anxiety and so on, is they numb everything else.

Our lives are built on being numb.   Human connection is at the heart of experience.

Happiness is meaningless if we can’t experience it with anybody.

 

The delusion is that we believe more in getting what we want than connecting with people.   We think that achieving our goals, having ambition without respecting the simple human act of relating, accepting and having compassion will make us happy.   These things will not alone make us happy, we need to have the element of human connection interlacing it all together.

 

I love sex, and so does the rest of the world.

For me personally, I have had all different types of sexual interactions.   In the past I would hear about something new and I want to try it.

However more than sex, I love connection (I had to learn the hard way) .   You can have calm and mellow missionary sex all the way to orgies, gangbangs and whatever else you can imagine, but without connection being the motivation and inspiration behind those acts they will simply be acts, and they will turn into confusion and chaos.

 

Sex is one of the highest forms of communication and it should be respected in this way.

 

That connection of sex is so powerful that culture after culture tries to put rules on it.

 

Connection is something that is bigger than anything man can make, simply because it is at the heart of anything man makes…connection will always be the catalyst to what surpasses itself.

 

 

 

3 – Self-Acceptance –

If we know who we are (Identity) we need to accept who we are (Self-Acceptance)

 

A life without self-acceptance is a life hiding behind guilt and shame.

 

We look at what we can get not at why we want what we want

We blindly try and explore ourselves without truly exploring ourselves.

 

We can’t fix who we are if we can’t accept who we are.

 

Too many people are unwilling to look at themselves.

Too many people think their flaws are meant to be hidden, covered or even unattractive.

I want to be a human being not some robot or mask.

Here is the reality, no matter how perfect you think you are, you’re not.  You never will be.

However you can absolutely evolve, everyone has the capacity for massive personal change.

No matter how much you think your life is set in stone, let alone your sexuality, it is not.   The initial steps towards that transformation have to do with self-acceptance.

 

My friend Dave told me once,

“You’re going to have to come to terms with who you are and practice some self-acceptance.   If you’re the guy that goes around and fucks chicks and does whatever crazy shit you’re into, there is nothing wrong with that, if you’re honest with yourself about it.  But the confusion comes into play when you try and not be that guy and you’re living as 2 different people at the same time.”

 

People want something to cover up with rather than be themselves or express themselves.

You see this in the seduction industry over and over again.

What the industry in general says,

‘To be an alpha male you have to do what you want and figure out ways to avoid responsibility’.

How can I have sex and trick these chicks into being ok with it???

 

Here’s the answer,

You can have whatever sexual life you want.  You can have as many women in your life that you want, but in reality it is more of a question of what you can handle…

Can you handle a sex life with many partners; can you handle having multiple relationships with women?

If you’re planning to lie about it, there is nothing ‘alpha’ about that.

 

What Dave was telling me was simply that I had to accept myself first.  If I was hiding from my actions, or my actions from other people then I was manifesting shame.   It doesn’t matter how good I get at communication, it doesn’t matter how much I can control a situation if I have guilt, shame or self-hate then I am always going to move backwards.

 

I need to accept myself, the good and the bad.  If I have a speech impediment, handicap, emotional issues, a disease or deformity , anger towards women I need to first learn to look at that and accept it, then I can determine if I am going to express it to the world around me.

Anger is a lack of acceptance.  Depression (or anger turned inwards) is a lack of self-acceptance.

 

 

Life, Sex, Humanity is not a template, it is not a system, it is not a routine.  You need to accept your life and find that true freedom is in that.

 

4 – Sex is a part of life – 

Sex is one of the greatest forces known to man. 

We forget that.

Life (literally) begins with sex.

However so much is communicated, defined and cultivated through sex.  Sex is its own form of communication.  We forget how powerful it is, we forget how much respect it demands.

I know men and women that think sex will make them happy.

The sad thing is that is can make them happy, but it doesn’t.  The reason why is sex is not respected.  It is simply an act.  It might be an act of validation, or and act of a simple urge.

The problem is when sex is only an act your sexuality has no purpose.

 

If we sex as something that is at the root of all life, at the root of many of our emotions, and its own special language then our sex acts can be fulfilling.  Our sexuality makes us happy.

 

Instead our fears towards who we are (Identity) giving a part of ourselves (Connection) and loving accepting who we are and the acts we are doing (Self-Acceptance) keep sex as only a simple act.

 

We think it is bad, we think it is harmful, shaming, lewd and so on.  Sex is part of life!

Sex is also bigger than us, we will never master it, control it or be able to truly put a definition on it.

The same goes for life, at most we can simply live it.

 

When we stop being humble towards sex and sexuality we will be humiliated by it.

 

We need to recognize sex’s power and beauty and express that through ourselves, this is what we call our sexuality – our expression of that great force.

 

 

5 – Everyone is Sexual – 

We are already sexual – to have the best sexual experiences we need to take things away more than add them.

 

We forget this.

We forget that we are sexual, we forget the people we are attracted to are sexual.  The more we see people as not sexual beings the more we build walls around our relationships with people.

 

I hear women all the time say that they don’t want to be sex objects.  The problem is not the ‘sex’ part, it is the ‘object’ part.

The more we see people as some sort of check list or category the more we get away from the organic nature of a person’s sexuality.

Both women and men do this constantly.   They think attraction is something that can be listed off and categorized, while it might be true (people are more attracted to certain qualities and body types) we have to realize that our sexual side can over power our tastes.

This is where both women and men get it wrong.

Women will always say they are attracted to confidence, humor, height and so on.

Men will say they are attracted to her breast size, ass, weight, open-mindedness and so on.

 

This is all what we like, this is not our sexual side.  There is a difference.

Sex is a force within us.

We might give attention to specific features however our sexual urges always win once they are stimulated.

 

I know many men and women who can define what they are attracted to and what they want in a sex partner…they hardly ever get it.

Women and men who you would think can get anyone they want are never fulfilled.  This is because they are not realizing sex is more about connection than a checklist.  People who value and build their relationships on intimacy, connection, exchange are people that have relationships.  People that value relationships on what they are attracted or what they want don’t have relationships people, they have relationships with a fantasy they are trying to manage.

 

Where the Seduction industry gets it wrong is it is predominantly based on the idea that women are sexually attracted to social value.

I can guarantee you that most women’s pussies don’t get wet when they see a nice car or men with a lot of money, status or whatever.  And the women who’s ovaries do move when they see that are the rare ones that you should avoid.

In fact I would bet that a women seeing a man with a lot of status and attention would have considerably less physical arousal than a women watching a man with no money playing with his infant child.

This status simply gets women’s attention and allows you more opportunities to get sexual.   But then what are you having sex with.

The seduction industry is an industry full of technique on how to have sex that has nothing to do with sex.

 

If guys in the seduction industry simple got that seduction is in everyone and nearly independent of status they would gain a lot more ground at having IDEAL SEXUAL relationships with women.

 

If women who watched Lifetime movies and read Cosmo realized that their fantasy of some man recognizing them for their personality.  Sexuality, sex and relationships aren’t a list of qualities, femininity (as well as masculinity) isn’t a demand for something.  You have to be sexual, you have to experience to have your definition.  If you’re on the sidelines then you’re just taking notes.  Remember the beauties of sex are beyond any list you come up with.  Your lists and theories without experiences to shape them are only opinions.

 

The whole thing is that both sides have come up with these bizarre fucked up rules for each other so their in a constant state of confusion and frustration.

Women and men need to realize that they are meant to be sexual.

 

Every man and woman I know and talk to all want to be desired.  They all want people to be attracted to them.  Every woman I know wants to be hot, every woman I know wants the ability to arouse a man and every woman I know doesn’t want to be hit on poorly by a man.

 

She wants to her sexuality to be respected but what does she put out there to be respected.  A girl with no personality demanding her personality to be respected because her frustrated friends that get walked on by men said so.

 

The sad thing is neither women nor men do enough to be respected.

 

Rather than going out and experiencing life they would rather take the shortcut to manhood.   No man is secure with his presence as a man.  Rather than getting comfortable with himself and follow his natural urges to pursue a woman he’d read a book on how to be alpha so he could finally be perceived as a leader…after that he can fuck some bitches.

 

This is why you have 25 year old men pounding Viagra so they can ‘fuck like a porn star’ or think they need a bigger dick to be better in bed.

 

This is why women have more sex partners than ever before but have no concept of how to move their bodies and have an orgasm.

 

Nobody knows how to seduce or be intimate…

 

No man knows how make a woman feel like a woman, and no woman knows how to make a man feel like a man.

 

Sex has no boundaries and somehow ‘modern day humanity’ has taken the most human thing and suffocated it.

 

Men and women are too caught up being boys and girls.  Part of growing up is to be a sexual person.

Part of being a man is to show women they make you aroused, and part of being a woman is to show a man you’re aroused by him (a slut just fucks them).

 

The art in it all is experiencing sex but doing it in the right way.  That’s where the fear lies…we might have to take a step by ourselves, we might have to fail, we might have to get rejected, but only through this is the path to enlightenment.

 

WE ARE ALL SEXUAL BEINGS!

 

When we live by our fears our Identity becomes a façade

When we are living by a façade our sex can only be an action.

When our sex is only an action we become frustrated and want to control things.

When we value control over experience we search for definitions and fear our experiences.

When we live by definitions we put our faith in a series of action and we have no purpose.

When we have no purpose we only become the sum of our results.

Results without purpose is the worst mirror one can stand infront of

 

Our Sexuality is no longer an expression of who we are and what we are sharing with someone, our Sexuality and our Purpose is a checklist.  We have taken 2 things (Sex and Life) that need no help, you just have to do them, and tied them in knots.

 

Live well

and comments always welcome…

 

Steve

 

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